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Perhaps You Should Have Gotten Married First

November 27th, 2006 Visited 1449 times, 1 so far today

Jaime PresslyJaime Pressly made it official on Jay Leno’s show on Thursday night, November 16th:

I’m ashamed to say that I was living in sin with my boyfriend.  We have been dating for about 18 months, and during that time we engaged in sinful activity– activity that should only be done between married spouses.

I’m announcing this, because I can no longer hide that I am four months pregnant and we want to keep the baby.  I’m letting you know that my boyfriend and I are getting married and making the situation right.

I’m asking the young ladies out there that are my fans to forgive me, to not follow my example and to remain abstinent until marriage.

Or at least, that’s what she should have said.

Instead, Miss Pressly stated that she’s excited: “I’m healthy, the baby’s healthy.  We’re good.”

We’ve talked about how the simplicity of life has been robbed from us.  Now we see the logical next step– the glorification of immoral behavior.  You see, at one point in time Miss Pressly would probably had disappeared for a little while until the marriage was out or something could have been arranged.  There once was a stigma associated with sleeping around, to being sexually available to your boyfriend.

Now we’re seeing the total opposite of the spectrum where people like Miss Pressly and Ms. Johansson are able to glorify promiscuity or pre-marital sex and they are exalted.

Ms. Johansson, as you recall, was the woman who claimed that “socially aware” citizens should get themselves tested for HIV bi-yearly.  Her new statement is just as shocking:

“We are supposed to be liberated in America but if our President had his way, we wouldn’t be educated about sex at all. Every woman would have six children and we wouldn’t be able to have abortions.”

This glorification of self indulgence is one of the factors that is polluting and eroding marriage.  It is tearing apart families, spreading disease, and causing instability in lives and yet it is that which is lifted on high as something to be happy about. A recent survey shows just how this problem is effecting our culture stating that 4 in 10 babies are born out of wedlock. And contrary to what you’re probably thinking, the problem is not teens. We’ve glorified cohabitation and pre-marital sex, and one wonders how we’ll ever go back.

I firmly believe in abstinence outside of marriage, fidelity in marriage.  I believe that it should be practiced for the following reasons:

  • It follows the Biblical example of how the church and Christ interrelate.
  • It allows us to give ourselves wholly to our spouse.
  • It teaches us that sexual pleasure is something that we seek to give to our spouse rather than to get solely for self.

For further thought, check out the post on Pre-Marital Sex on MyPrivateJoy.  In any case, if you practiced abstinence and fidelity we wouldn’t have to be tested, Ms. Johansson, and we would have the support system of our marriages, and we would be putting the establishment of that relationship it its correct location instead of giving it the afterthought that many seem to give it today.

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  • MInTheGap says on: November 27, 2006 at 3:36 pm

     

    Wouldn’t that have been something if she had said the right thing, though?

  • Mrs. Meg Logan says on: November 27, 2006 at 3:27 pm

     

    Amen!

    I nearly had my hopes up though at the beginning of this post! *sigh* but alas, we are in dark times.

    Mrs. Meg Logan

  • Leticia says on: November 27, 2006 at 4:50 pm

     

    Mrs. Logan, I was thinking the same thing. I was saying “yes, finally someone is telling the truth!” And much to my dismay it wasn’t so.

    How sickening that these women promote premarital sex and abortion!!! They are in fact condoning murder and putting down a president who believes in abstinence.

    What’s next? God help us.

  • Mary says on: November 27, 2006 at 8:14 pm

     

    Same thing here, what a downer. You made your point though…well said.

    I was listening to AFR the other day, and they said that one of the big newspapers had published stats (I think it was the Washington Post) relating to poverty and how it affected single parents, unwed parents, and married parents. Very interesting. Around 38% of unwed parents were poverty level or below, a similar percentage of single parents raising children were at poverty level or below, and not so amazingly if you take into account that God’s way is best: only 8% of married parents raising children were at poverty level or below. I thought it was neat that the WP published such a finding.

  • Holly says on: November 27, 2006 at 10:20 pm

     

    Ah yes, well, fathers are optional, aren’t they? That’s what it seems, anyway.

    I’m thankful, in one way, in that the trend seems to be toward pregnant “starlets” keeping their babies, rather than aborting them…but….

    the trend isn’t toward a stable, committed marriage.

    It seems there are a few of the “popular” folk who are able to find one spouse and be content – but not too many. It proves to me that beauty does not equal happiness. I find it so sad and unfortunate that many/most of our young people look to Hollywood for their role models. The stats are indeed bad, aren’t they?

  • MInTheGap says on: November 27, 2006 at 10:55 pm

     

    I think that, unfortunately, babies are the new fashion accessory to some starlets– kind of like those tiny dogs they carry around. Perhaps they are a way for them to feel normal. In any case, we can praise God that they are given life, but pray for them because of the life and the families they have been born into.

    I think the whole “fathers are optional” thing will go down in history to be feminisms greatest folly. My heart and my wife’s heart goes out to single moms– how can they teach a boy to be a man?

  • Leigh Ann says on: November 28, 2006 at 9:40 am

     

    This post is on the heels of an article I came across about stress relief and how good sex was for this purpose. It gave the opinion that, based on research, after 4 years of marriage women are just hardwired to not really delight in this aspect of the relationship and therefore are losing a great benefit. (There is so much that could be said for that statement alone, but I won’t go there.) One of the examples, however, was of an unmarried woman so stressed out by her new job, etc. that her poor boyfriend was really missing out. Poor thing was only getting it once a month. Well, they started to work on this sad state of affairs and, low and behold, she started having more energy, sleeping better and losing weight to boot. All from unmarried sex! So ladies, married or not, find a man and you too can benefit from this great cure-all.
    What kind of message is this sending about sex? 1) Getting married cools the drive so apparently the lowest sexual experience on the totum pole is married sex. 2) Sex is for anyone, young, old, married, not, whatever. If it works for you and feels good do it. I could go on, but I will spare you.
    The whole thing just blows my mind.

  • Leigh Ann says on: November 28, 2006 at 9:42 am

     

    P.S. Why do I always look like a seasick troll?

  • MInTheGap says on: November 28, 2006 at 11:09 am

     

    Wow, that article really does promote anything but marriage. The scary part is that I’m sure there’s an element of truth to how much a married couple is intimate with each other. But I think this is only a symptom of the real cause. I don’t think that couples today spend enough time cultivating their relationship as they do doing their own thing, running their houses, and raising their children. How many couples end up not knowing their spouse after their kids are gone?

    So, I think it should be a big warning sign that if you’re not bonding with your spouse on all levels (physically, spiritually and emotionally) then something is wrong and needs to get put right.

    What a benefit God gave to married couples– the physical benefits of intimacy!

    As for your avatar, if you have an image that you’d like (we’ve been doing headshots) you can e-mail it to me. I’ve also lowered the number of comments you have to have posted before you can change your avatar. You should see a link below the reply box that reads “As a frequent comment author you are allowed to register your own avatar.” If you click the end of that sentence you should be able to choose an image from the library.

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