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What to Do When You Call off the Wedding

September 19th, 2006 Visited 2476 times, 1 so far today

Kyle PaxmanFirst there was the woman that fed the homeless with the wedding reception food because her wedding was called off. Now we have Kyle Paxman who turned her failed wedding’s reception into a charity benefit.

Paxman, 29, had planned to celebrate her nuptials at the Basin Harbor Club on Lake Champlain on Saturday. When she found out [that her fiance had been cheating on her], she called off the 180-guest wedding and the four-year relationship.

She and her mother canceled the band, photographer and florist, but learned they would not be reimbursed for the reception and block of rooms they had reserved. So they turned the reception into a benefit for the Vermont Children’s Aid Society and CARE USA, an international relief organization that aims to combat poverty by empowering women.

They sent out invitations to 125 women for drinks and a gourmet four-course dinner. In exchange, they hope the guests will make donations to the charities.

Isn’t this amazing: the impact that you could have personally with the same money that was to be lavished on someone for a wedding? My father has joked with each of his male children as we went toward the alter by saying that he’d just give us $1,000 if we’d elope. Each of us (so far) has had a ceremony– and yet imagine what you could do personally or to make a difference in your area with the money that you would spend on the wedding ceremony!

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  • ann_in_grace says on: January 9, 2007 at 6:02 am

     

    This is something very superficial – wedings and expenses connected with them. Thre are nations whose traditions make it impossible to have a simple and quiet wedding, and people go to extremes of borrowing large sums of money, probably paying back throughout their whole lives, to afford the wedding. I cannot understand this.
    So I sort of like the example from the article, however I would prefer she had planned a simple wedding in the firs place.
    Have you noticed that oftentimes people plan their weddings in detail, hire a special person to arrange everything, but when it comes to a married life, they have no plans at all and are counting on love only?

  • MInTheGap says on: January 9, 2007 at 9:22 am

     

    You have a good point there, Ann. It’s kind of like the people that will have a 5 year plan for their finances, but won’t think of planning out five years for the other areas of their life. Unfortunately, love is more than just feelings– it’s a commitment, and because so many couples base it on “love” they fall apart when the feeling goes away.

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