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What Kind of Example?

June 25th, 2006 Visited 1310 times, 1 so far today

It’s interesting being a parent.  For one thing, you get to see minature versions of you (or so your parents say) running around doing all sorts of things.  Some times they impress you with how different from you they are.  Some times they scare you with how much they are like you.

One thing that we’ve been having drilled into our heads during Sunday School is that our children copy what they see from us.  We all know the expression that actions speak louder than words, and in this case it’s true.

For example, it’s hard for us to teaching sharing, when we don’t share.  Especially when they ask us to share!  Twice I was confronted with this just this weekend.  Once it was a child asking me to share, the other was when I asked him if he shared and his response was “no, it’s mine!”

Why do we have different standards for ourselves than our kids?  We think that we’re protecting them from something, and we probably are, but why are we doing it?  We end up teaching them that a given thing is alright just because your an adult, when in reality it probably isn’t.

My father drank soda with every dinner that I can remember when I was growing up.  Guess what I wanted to do when I became an adult?  Guess what my kids thought they should get to do.  So now, I’m a good example drinking milk, water, and an occasional soda.

True, there are some things that an adult can do that a child cannot– like drive a car!  They are probably the exception and not the rule.

Have you noticed that when it comes to clothing, the little girls in the tinest clothes (the short shorts and the bikini tops) are the ones whose moms wear (or would wear) the same thing?  Have you noticed that the parents break little girls into this inappropriate attire at an early age.

We parents have a tremendous effect on the culture by the example we give our children.  Do we realize this, or do we somehow thing that we do not reap what we sow?

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  • Shelli says on: June 26, 2006 at 8:47 am

     

    Hi MIN, I like the new place! Thanks for stopping by again.

    I totally agree with the lead by example thing. It IS that way, when I was a kid, my parents had few personal boundaries. As I grew up, I didn’t think that is was important for me to have either…until I had kids. That changed the rules entirely for me, I figured out (thankfully early in life) that often when a person is miserable it’s because of lack of these personal boundaries or rules. Of course now I have the Bible to show me what the essential rules are and then I add my own to help my girls to not fall into the traps that I did. God willing by leading by example I will be able to save them from the heartbreak that I endured.

    Now if I could only figure how to undo some of the examples that I HAVE set that were not good…

  • Mary says on: June 26, 2006 at 1:46 pm

     

    Thanks for commenting on my blog, and congrats on your babe to be! I’ve enjoyed reading your posts…checking out your links…you’re doing a great thing here.
    Had to chuckle on your comment on children in bikini’s…my in-laws are big on that (for ease of taking children to the bathroom) and have a hard time with our choice to not allow them at all. My reason–why permit something that eventually will be off limits? Talk about confusing/frustrating for the child. And parents do it all the time…
    I’ll be back,
    Mary

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