MInTheGap

Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.

Makeover Shows Causing Envy, Jealousy

June 15th, 2015 Viewed 870 times

Stop Looking! Fashion Runway 2011 by Henry JoseI’ve called TLC “The Lust Channel” before, and with good reason.  TLC shows a lot of reality shows geared on telling you that you are not good enough, that your house isn’t good enough, your clothes aren’t good enough, your family isn’t good enough, or your life isn’t good enough.  I’m not sure how much of that is supposed to be learning.

Blanche Johnson asks the question, Do TLC’s makeover shows do more harm than good? and she focuses in on the fashion shows and the messages they give to young women:

“When we suggest to girls already in an early age that developing a great look is more important than forming a well-rounded personality, then we have become an active part of creating a more superficial, heartless society,” Atwal continued. “Also as a mother I say that I want no part of that. Outer beauty can only really shine in the presence of inner beauty.”

11 Questions to Ask Your Wife

July 8th, 2014 Viewed 1246 times
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By Lou Priolo

The best way to get to know your wife is to talk to her.  But instead of asking her about the weather, try instead to ask her things that build your relationship– intimate questions.

In the second chapter (entitled Back to School for the Rest of My Life!) of our book, the author suggests 11 questions that we can ask our wives to get to know them better.  Warning, these are not for the faint of heart:

  1. If you could change three things about me that would make me more Christ-like, what would you change?
  2. Do I have any other annoying mannerisms or irritating idiosyncrasies that you would like to see me change?
  3. How does it make you feel when I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
  4. What goes through your mind when I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
  5. What do you want from me that I’m not giving you at the moment I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
  6. What specifically would you like to see me do to change in this area (name something that you know displeases her)?
  7. On a scale from one to ten, how would you rate our marriage?
  8. What would it take to make our marriage a ten?
  9. What is your opinion about?
  10. What personal goals do you have for your life?  How may I help you achieve them?
  11. Do you have any needs or desires that you believe I ought to be meeting or fulfilling better than I do?  What are they?

He then goes on to tell us to add further questions of our own.

One thing’s for sure, if you start with these questions I’m sure your wife will say some interesting things!


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Are Boys Better Than Girls?

December 10th, 2012 Viewed 1855 times

Boy and a GirlIt was summer camp.  I was a junior counselor, my father the senior counselor.  Here was the first time that I saw the battle of the sexes in full force and boys and girls sat at separate tables and each looked at the other like they were aliens.

It’s not like society doesn’t create this problem.  Boys and Girls, Men and Women are different.  Whereas they live together at home, when they are in school or summer camp they are separated into different sleeping areas, different gym classes, different facilities.  While in a home they may be forced to work together with some knowledge of their difference, all of these external places bring the differences to light.

And no one disagrees!

However, what I noticed that day in the dining room at summer camp was that I wanted to believe that the boys were better—being a boy myself—and thought that the adults trying to convince us of equality were misguided.

Porn’s Effect on the Culture

January 6th, 2011 Viewed 2885 times

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“We are what we eat” the old expression goes.  However, Jesus stated that it’s not that which goes into a man that defiles him, but that which comes out.

What comes out of the minds of men and women today is that which has been fed a steady diet of sexuality.  We’ve talked before about how there doesn’t seem to be a thing that hasn’t been sold using sex, and with the growing number of people going onto the Internet, what we’ve also found is that our children are beginning to think that sex is like what they see in pornography.

You Could Almost See it Coming

April 28th, 2008 Viewed 2061 times

Hannah MontanaIf it didn’t happen so often you could almost believe them.  It’s like a line from a movie:  Young starlet is discovered for some talent.  She is built up and is sold as a pure girl– a role model to look up to.  Then, there are pictures discovered showing that she’s not who she claimed to be, or (as in the case of Miss Cyrus) she has photos taken that show off a different image than the managed one…

Have You No Shame?

April 17th, 2008 Viewed 1968 times

fashion-girl 3 I think that the first time that I actually realized how much the culture had changed as far as what was normal in dating relationships was when I had conversations with my friend in college who was a Hall Leader (RA) on the girl’s side of campus.  She told me of announcements that had been made to the girls about how some of the girls had been taking pictures of themselves in their under-things to send over to the boy’s side of campus, and the effect it had on the boys and on those that developed the film.

On the Front-lines of Modest Fashion

April 10th, 2008 Viewed 5542 times

pcanvasbibWhen the big stores refused to make clothing that was modest in fit and form, some protested, some wrote letters, and some decided that they could make their own clothing to sell.  Christa Taylor is one such company.

In a recent interview with Mrs. Wilt at The Sparrow’s Nest, Christa herself talked about why she started her company:

In reality, Christa-Taylor.com grew out of frustration. After searching endlessly for a swimsuit that just didn’t exist, we designed our own. Under the direction and guidance of my Dad and brothers we started to experiment with different ideas, and eventually the possibility of opening our own Christa Taylor line. With much counsel and much perseverance we launched Christa-Taylor.com on January 15th, 2007, with just 1 swimsuit and 2 skirts. Since then, we have continued to refine and perfect our service and selection. It’s still very much a work in progress, but what an adventure!

Measured By Looks

April 10th, 2008 Viewed 1735 times

josefina 5 I once read an article about how to get to be a top Stumbler on StumbleUpon and part of the winning scenario included creating an account that was for a college aged girl, with a picture borrowed from some dating site for some foreign country and making sure to stumble photography.

I know that when I was IM’ing back in the late 1990’s that opposite sexes would randomly IM each other more than than the same sex.  So it doesn’t surprise me that when a man pretended to be a college-aged blonde girl using a picture from a Russian Dating website that his “Libertarian Girl” blog became more popular than it would have been if he blogged as himself.

How to Seduce a Woman

February 22nd, 2008 Viewed 9098 times

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Today’s culture has told young women that in order to be truly liberated they must engage in all the activities in which men participate. They are encouraged to have casual sex, to enjoy their bodies and that they should disregard their emotions.

The problem is, they can’t. And the scarier reality is that there are books and tools out there that take advantage of the fact that deep down a woman’s opinion of herself is attached to what the men around her think of her. And that this self evaluation is tied into whom she allows in her bed.

Is There a Benefit to Equality in Education?

November 28th, 2007 Viewed 8267 times

Bright Smiles A few weeks ago we talked about Morality in education using as a springboard the whole topic of homosexuality in the public school system. Core to the premise that the school is a proper place to teach right and wrong is the concept that the children belong to the state, not to the parents.

What’s strange is the parallels between this concept of “it takes a village” to raise children and Plato’s Republic. Two portions of Plato’s Republic I find scary (especially when you consider that Plato is thought to have lived between 427 and 347 BC).

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Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.