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Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.

Old Testament Wives – Ruth, Abigail and Esther

April 2nd, 2018 Viewed 775 times, 1 so far today

What quality of Ruth’s is God’s focus?

Ruth is humble throughout—she stayed with Naomi, she was willing to glean food with the poor, she humbled herself in front of Boaz (looking for his direction), and was blessed because of it.  Ruth showed humility, something she didn’t need to do.  She could have stayed in Moab, she could have complained with the harsh loss of her husband and status.  She didn’t do any of this, and as such she’s in the line of David.

Ruth is one of the few discussions of Leverite marriage in that Boaz was a kinsman redeemer to her. This story plays out God’s love for us– an outsider that is chosen to marry someone with much. She is held up as an example of a godly young lady.

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What it Means to Be Submissive to Him

April 14th, 2015 Viewed 1520 times

On October 22, 1971, while sitting in a car looking over the sea at a place called “Manly” in Brisbane, Australia, I asked Mally to marry me. (Can you imagine getting engaged at “Manly”?!) At the moment she said those beautiful words “I will!” neither of us had any idea of where the Lord would lead us. Many years later I realized how God had been preparing each of us for the special ministry we were to be called into, for 15 years later, in 1986, Mally and I made an important decision that would change our lives dramatically.

So begins the powerful story written by Ken and Steve Ham talking about Ken’s move from Australia to an entirely different culture and how that move echoes Ruth in the Bible and how that plays out in family life in A Girl Named Ruth.

101 Ways to Say “I Love You” Without Saying It

April 30th, 2007 Viewed 306678 times, 2 so far today

This is What Love Looks Like
Often, we can remember to say “I Love You” and show it when we are young and first “fall in love” with each other, but when it gets to the point that you’ve been together for years, what you do and say that are not those three words mean more than saying them. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t tell your spouse you love them, but let me suggest (for the man and the woman) some ways that you can say I love you without saying it.

Husbands

Connect Physically

  1. Hold her hand
  2. Giver her a back/neck massage
  3. Play with her hair
  4. Massage her feet
  5. Open her door
  6. Give her a hug
  7. Offer your arm
  8. Cuddle next to her while sitting down
  9. Put your arm around her neck
  10. Offer your shoulder for her head

Around the House

  1. Make the bed, before she gets to it
  2. Cook her a meal
  3. Vacuum the house
  4. Play her a song– a favorite of hers
  5. Do that project she’s been asking you about
  6. Do a project that you know needs to be done without her asking
  7. Change the infant’s diaper
  8. Go to sleep with her at night
  9. Let her sleep in while you watch the kids
  10. Buy her some flowers for display

Ideas

  1. Leave notes around the house telling her how much you love her
  2. Write a message on the mirror with soap while she’s in the shower
  3. Call them from work just to talk (not during her nap
  4. Send her an e-mail card (but not too often)
  5. Write her a snail-mail letter and have it delivered to the house when you’re not there
  6. Call the grandparents to watch the kids for the night and surprise her by taking her out.
  7. Take the children out and let her have the day off
  8. Let her have a ladies night out
  9. Writer her a poem
  10. Help your kids to write her a banner or note

Wives

The problem I have here is that I know that wives are so often showing their love that it would take something out of the ordinary to be different, and yet I will list some things (and they’re probably dual purpose 😉 ).

Connect Physically

  1. Prepare his meals
  2. Run his house
  3. Help raise his kids
  4. Greet him at the door with a kiss
  5. Hold his hand
  6. Cuddle with him
  7. Give him a massage
  8. Lay your head on his lap the next time you’re watching television
  9. Walk over and sit on his lap
  10. Give him a back rub

Ideas

  1. Give him some time to work on a project that he has been working on
  2. Talk to him about what interests him
  3. Sneak a note in with his lunch
  4. Call him and tell him that you are thinking about him
  5. Tell him that you appreciate what he does for the family
  6. Write a letter or something and leave it where he can find it.
  7. Get his favorite candy or treat just for him
  8. Talk good about him to your friends
  9. Talk good about him in front of him
  10. Encourage his dreams

Siblings

  1. Obedience is the best way to show love
  2. Stand behind your parents decisions, even if you don’t agree
  3. Create something to give to them to display on the fridge
  4. Ask to help do something around the house that you don’t usually do
  5. Let your parents sleep in one day
  6. Share your favorite toy with your sibling
  7. Invite your brother/sister to come with you when going over to someone’s house
  8. Make something special for dad to take to work
  9. Spend some time helping a younger sibling learn something they are having trouble with
  10. Clean up your room without being asked.

Friends

  1. Stand up for your friend when he is alone
  2. Be truthful to a friend, even if it hurts
  3. Always make time to talk to a friend
  4. Always listen completely to what a friend has to say
  5. Be a part of the group that encourages your friend to follow his dream
  6. Remember his/her birthday
  7. Be there to help a friend move
  8. Be understanding when family must come first
  9. Talk positively about your friend when he is not around
  10. Be on the look out for things that may help your friend

Things you can say to that special someone

  1. I adore you
  2. I appreciate you
  3. There’s no one else I could ever want to be with
  4. My life is not the same without you
  5. I care about you
  6. Please be there for me
  7. I trust you
  8. I will never leave you
  9. I will always be there for you
  10. You complete me

Things you can say to your friend

  1. Thank you
  2. I couldn’t have done it without you
  3. I owe you more than you could possibly know
  4. Whatever you need done, I’ll do it
  5. Don’t worry, I’ll be there (and make it)
  6. I promise…
  7. I’ll be praying for you
  8. I’ll be there right away
  9. Don’t worry, I don’t have to go
  10. Drive Safely

Love Poems

  1. Love Spell
  2. Cinderella
  3. A Special World
  4. If I could…
  5. It’s You
  6. A Stranger Once
  7. The Jewel
  8. Never Have I Fallen
  9. Your Name
  10. Love

And 101 – Play the Randy Travis song “I’m Going to Love You Forever.”

Love Grown Up


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How a Wife Was Defined

May 2nd, 2005 Viewed 2240 times

Happy CoupleThe next thing that I found particularly fascinating about the role of the sexes in the Old Testament narratives is how the husband and wife treated each other. Specifically, recall the passage in Hebrews where it said that Sarah called Abraham her “lord.” This is quite different today.

Today we live in a society that has done two things to marriage. They’ve made it “all about love” so that if you’re no longer “in love” why be in it. The other thing is that they’ve made it more about expressing my individuality than in being a unit.

Multiple Wives – Not God’s Design

April 28th, 2005 Viewed 4055 times

Happy CoupleOne of the things that continues to hit me over and over again as I’m doing my reading through the Bible this year is the roles of men and women in the Bible compared to them now. I want to take a look at a few of the differences over the next few posts. As I’ve already discussed previously head coverings, clothing, hair length and Biblical Standards, I won’t rewrite my thoughts there– unless I have to.

The first, and probably most striking thing, about male/female relations in Bible times was the number of wives Biblical characters had and how the Bible is relatively silent in criticizing that fact. In fact, in one place in II Samuel, the Lord even says that he gave David many wives (in regards to his taking Bathsheba and sending her husband to his death).

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Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.