MInTheGap

Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.

The Wedding and After

August 4th, 2008 Viewed 2942 times

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Passion is at its most pure when it’s unleashed after remaining pure.  Your love, totally give to another, is one of the strongest bonds in the world.  That’s one of the reasons that your purity is so valuable, and something that should be taken care of so well.

Your purity is something that makes you uniquely you.  I know that’s redundant, but it’s on purpose.  No one else is like you and no one else can give what you can give.

How Long Should I Be Engaged?

August 1st, 2008 Viewed 7296 times

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I once heard someone say that you should spend a year dating, and then a year engaged before getting married.  The problem with this is that in our current culture all that is different between engagement and marriage it the amount of stress you’re having planning the wedding.

Well, that and the physical consummation of the wedding night1.

  1. Assuming you’ve maintained physical purity to this point []

Never Alone

July 31st, 2008 Viewed 3000 times

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One of the realities of dating and purity is that your flesh wants to spend more time alone, and it is then that you are the most vulnerable.

What I’m not saying is that you will do something.  I’m also not saying that you shouldn’t spend one-on-one time with the girl/guy that you’re dating.  You’ll need to have the opportunity to talk, and you’ll want to discuss things that aren’t necessarily appropriate for a group of people.

A Physical Progression

July 30th, 2008 Viewed 3208 times

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One of the things that’s true about all sin, but especially physical sin, is that it has a definite progression and if you can stop it when it’s manageable the odds are that you can still remain objective about it.

Having decided that you will remain pure, and declared it up front you’ve taken some good first steps1 but that doesn’t guarantee you won’t be tested and that you or the person your with won’t want to compromise your decision.

  1. If you’re new to this, check out the previous posts in the series using the index below. []

Deciding Beforehand

July 29th, 2008 Viewed 2693 times

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In our last post1 we talked about some reasons that people have to remain pure before marriage.  We need to have strong reasons for why we will remain pure or else “in the heat of the moment” we will compromise our decision in order to go further than we believe we should.

Such is the nature of sin—it keeps you wanting more, it wants you to get as close to the edge as possible, instead of staying far away from it.

  1. See the series index at the bottom of this post if you missed it! []

Why are You Deciding to be Pure?

July 28th, 2008 Viewed 3218 times

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One of the most important weapons in staying pure is making the decision before you get into a situation.  This goes for any sin, not just physical sin with the opposite sex.

Knowing what God thinks about the sin, how you should feel about the sin, and deciding that you will not get anywhere near the sin will go a long way to keeping you pure.

Purity Starts in the Home

July 25th, 2008 Viewed 3079 times

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Each of us learns many things from our home environment.  Our first sounds and words, how to walk, how to relate to one another, and how to act—all of these are modeled for us day in and day out by our parents.

This is why it is so important for us as parents to live a pure life in front of our children and to model the best in front of them, and teach them how they should act.

Purity Before Passion

July 24th, 2008 Viewed 2882 times, 1 so far today

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The truth of the matter is, it’s hard to be pure.  Our sex saturated culture doesn’t help the situation either.

Sex and flattery sell just about everything that is on the market today.  Sex education permeates our public schools, and the Internet gives access to all sorts of perversions.

MInTheGap

Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.