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The Women of Proverbs – The Seductress, The Nag, and the Wife of His Youth

April 23rd, 2018 Viewed 830 times, 2 so far today

What are the characteristics of the Adulteress? (Proverbs 2:16-19; Proverbs 5:3-14; Proverbs 6:20-35; Proverbs 7:1-27; Proverbs 23:27-28; Proverbs 30:20)

She has forsaken her husband and her God. Her speech and ways are pleasing but she is really bitter and cutting. This adulteress leads men astray, to a place where he can never return. She is often beautiful and appealing to the eye. She is loud, and not where she is supposed to be (in her own house). She easily seduces a man. She approaches him with a kiss, and has prepared for their encounter. She is unfaithful to him. Following after her results in destruction of reputation, loss of wealth, and eventually to death. Solomon says that it would be better to get with a prostitute than to get with another man’s wife. The fact that there are six passages here again underscores the difference between adultery and other sexual sins.

Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered

November 20th, 2015 Viewed 2155 times

This is found in Proverbs 28:26, and was the point of a post by Pastor Erik Raymond entitled Do You Trust Yourself Too Much?

No matter how well we do in the day to day tasks, if our minds are our ultimate governors then we are nothing more than fools. But, if we are being governed by Lady Wisdom, and in fact, wisdom incarnate (Col. 2.3), the Lord Jesus Christ, then we are walking in wisdom.

No doubt you can sense the same burden from Paul in the New Testament (Rom. 12.1-2) as Solomon in the Old that believers would be bathing their minds in the Scriptures so as to transform hearts and minds by and through the Word. Do you share this burden and priority?

It reminds me of another proverb– the heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked, who can know it?

Guard Your Eyes and Your Heart

July 31st, 2008 Viewed 5046 times, 1 so far today


We talked last time about the power that is now wielded by the Seductress not only through her physical presence, but now through photography and video.  The power of this medium is not to be trivialized.

Pornography has destroyed marriages, it has encouraged all sorts of perversion, and it has taken ministries away from individuals.

It’s no wonder that Solomon goes the the extra mile to detail just what should be avoided, and of all the different sins Jesus could have used to talk about committing sins in your heart, adultery would have been one of the few that were used.

She is a Cheap Imitation

July 30th, 2008 Viewed 3752 times


Much could be said about the bond that should be present between a husband and wife.  That bond is reflective of the bond between Christ and the Church, a bond that is supposed to last until death, and that is unconditional.

Part of that bond is enjoying all that each other has to offer.  Each person in the marriage relationship brings something different.  They bring their perspective, their ideas and dreams, their opinions and their desires.  They are two different beings made one through their vows and in the presence of God.

Rejoice in Your Own Wife

July 29th, 2008 Viewed 3712 times, 2 so far today


Imagery is used quite often in the Bible to make a point.  A lot of what Christ said to His followers were in the form of parables1.  So it shouldn’t surprise us to find an analogy in the Proverbs that compares people to things.

Wisdom is often personified as a woman, and very often we see something compared to something else.

In the case of the passage we’re looking at today, “the wife of your youth” is compared to water, and there’s a good reason for it.

  1. Earthly stories with a heavenly meaning []

Her End is Death and the Dead

July 28th, 2008 Viewed 2697 times


The End of the Seductress is death.

For her house leads down to death,
And her paths to the dead;
None who go to her return,
Nor do they regain the paths of life– Proverbs 2:18-19

The first part of this verse talks about her house—and where going to her house leads.  In order to get the full force of this verse, I want you to think about what it means for the man to end up at the house of the Seductress.

Breaks A Covenant With God

July 25th, 2008 Viewed 3872 times, 1 so far today


The concept of a promise comes into place for two reasons:

  1. People often fail to keep their word.
  2. People want to know that you really mean what you say.

When a couple gets married, they’re traditionally making a series of really important promises.  They are first, and foremost, promising one another their love and devotion “until death do us part.”  A lot of the other vows (or promises) are geared to back up these two.

Forsaking Her Husband

July 24th, 2008 Viewed 3942 times


The Seductress can take many forms.  She can be a single woman or a married woman.  In this particular case, we learn that the Seductress has forsaken the companion of her youth1.

Now, it’s certainly true that we live in a much different society than when Proverbs was written.  In that day, women and men were betrothed—so the percentages of married women was much higher than today.  They also got married a whole lot earlier—much closer to puberty—such that there were not an abundance of single women around.

  1. Proverbs 2:17 []

She Flatters You With Words

July 23rd, 2008 Viewed 3398 times


Wisdom is the key to being delivered from the Seductress, for she has a very skillful weapon:

To deliver you from the immoral woman,
From the seductress who flatters with her words, – Proverbs 2:16

The first tool that the Seductress has is flattery.


Flattery is a difficult thing to deal with for the main reason that we all like to hear positive things about ourselves.  We want to hear praise, that we’re doing things right, that we are the best at something—we desire that attention and that approval.  Men, especially, want their ego stroked, whereas women want attention.

The Other Woman

July 22nd, 2008 Viewed 3050 times, 1 so far today


The Proverbs 31 woman is the paragon of virtue—the one that all young ladies are to aspire to and the one that all young men are to seek out.  She is the one that cares for her family, seeks her husbands best, provides for her children, and is honored by them.

However, there is another woman in Proverbs.  And I’d like to take a look at this lesser known woman and share with you some insight into her ways.  We need to study this woman’s behavior because she has much to teach us as well.

The Seductress is not a character that no longer exists—a figment from a time long passed.  No, the seductress still exists in many different forms.  She’s the woman that seeks the man to live off (either presently or after he dies).  She’s the woman that marries a man looking to divorce and take his money.  And her type is also reflected in the male gender in the man that marries up to live off of the woman.


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