MInTheGap

Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.

Not Every Mom a Stay At Home Mom

June 10th, 2015 Viewed 1667 times

Mother and KidsMy mother stayed at home while her kids were young to watch us.  What she did when we were all at school was a mystery that I didn’t think about– she would always be there to pick us up at school to bring us home.  I think that many families pattern their behavior after what their parents did– or try to do better than their parents– so it shouldn’t surprise you that my wife all stays home with our kids((Interestingly, none of my siblings currently have this arrangement)).

Changes in the neighborhood

One of the problems with this change in home arrangement is that neighborhoods are a lot different depending on who lives there.  A few generations ago, when most moms were home, you could have safer neighborhoods with adult presence at most homes and kids playing at different homes under adult supervision.  My friend across the street and I played almost daily all during my childhood!

But Did I Share the Gospel?

July 5th, 2014 Viewed 1154 times, 1 so far today

This post starts out like a cute story we as parents are all too familiar with…

Just yesterday, I asked my son to clean his room. As most ten year olds do, he bantered back and forth with me, “Maaaaaa, it’s summmmmer”, and “Maaaa, I cleaned my room yesterday!” Finally, when I mentioned the upcoming consequence, he begrudgingly ran upstairs, shut the door, and from my knowledge did what he was supposed to do.

About an hour later, I heard him running down the stairs and in all excitement, approached me with his hand outstretched and a smile on his face… “Mom, look at what I made for you!”

Lo and behold there it was- a marvelously handmade “Starburst ” rainbow loom bracelet that he had been trying to master for weeks. First, I told him how beautiful it was and thanked him, then I walked up the stairs, opened up his door, and peered into a room that hadn’t been cleaned.

I yelled down to my son, and asked him to come upstairs. I questioned him why he didn’t clean up his room, like I had asked. He replied, “Mom, I was too busy making you a bracelet.” I looked at him and said, “Grant, I love that you made me this bracelet, but you weren’t obedient to what I wanted you to do. You served me the way you wanted to serve me, rather than doing what I asked.”

Then I stopped dead in my tracks.

What was her revelation?  Find out at But Did I Share the Gospel?

Journey to the Dark Side

March 10th, 2010 Viewed 1563 times, 1 so far today

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Parental rights are a mind field, and nothing points to it better than this.  You see, i don’t know of many cases where we don’t see one party in a marriage (or cohabitating) break up as good for the child and the other as bad.

We always believe that we know best where kids should end up, and sometimes we seek to make the other parent out to be, well, Darth Vader. 1

No matter what the situation, we need to make sure that we take care of the kids and help them to understand that (in many cases) the other parent is not evil.

  1. But as anyone who has watched Star Wars would know, Padme didn’t have long blonde hair and live in house—she was a princess.  And by the time that Luke was that old, he would have been with his aunt and uncle and his father didn’t even know that he was still alive! []

The Injustice of Family Court

March 5th, 2010 Viewed 1931 times

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Those that bring children into the world should take care of them.  A rather straightforward idea, but one that is against the current culture in the United States.

No fault divorce, cohabitation, and a Family Court biased toward the mother all are conducive to splitting families up instead of having them stay together, and the men are the ones footing the bill.

Here are two stories that illustrate the point.

Promoting Marriage, Strengthening the Next Generation while Lowering Unemployment

March 1st, 2009 Viewed 1844 times

MotherKidsGovernment is a really great entity for coming up with ideas.  Government believes that they are the answer to every problem, and most of the time (or so it seems) they think more about today’s problem then what will happen tomorrow, or the unintended consequences of their solution.

I mean, who else plans to spend their great grandchildren’s money today?

Children and Parents

June 23rd, 2008 Viewed 1841 times, 1 so far today

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Verifying that truth is sometimes stranger than fiction, a father ended up having the discipline he placed on his 12 year old daughter overturned by a judge in Canada.

The girl’s parents were involved in a custody dispute, and the girl used a court appointed lawyer to make the case that the punishment that her father was placing for her disobedience was too severe.

You be the judge:

What Did You Miss?

April 16th, 2008 Viewed 1835 times

Mom and Son Each of us who are parents have to make many decisions every day, but one of them is critical: who will raise them?

I do not believe the current culture that tells us that we have to send our children to day care because we have to have two incomes.  And I think it’s a convincing lie, because our society is constantly telling us what we need to have, where we need to live, and that we have to have it our way now.

MInTheGap

Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.