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Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.

Is Arguing about the Law Wrong?

January 2nd, 2015 Viewed 1237 times

In Titus 3:9 we read the following:

But avoid foolish questions, and genealogies, and contentions, and strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable and vain.

Does this mean that if we have differences of understanding about passages of the Bible that we should refrain from discussing them or holding a strong stand about them simply because we should avoid “strivings about the law?”

So What’s There to Talk About?

July 9th, 2014 Viewed 1809 times, 2 so far today
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The Complete Husband
By Lou Priolo

In this chapter, the author stars out with a personal account of a moving incident in his life where a music minister made the following comment to him:

If we Christians are in any business at all, it’s the communication business.

And he’s right.  Whether it’s preaching the gospel, teaching others to make disciples or admonishing a brother we’re communicating.  In fact, Priolo stats that there are over forty communication commands in the New Testament epistles!

The point that he’s trying to make is that we have to be communicating with one another if we’re going to be able to experience the level of intimacy that is called for in marriage.  The degree to which we are willing to reveal ourselves to each other will have a direct impact on how close we can get to one another.  That’s why the questions that he had us guys ask our wives in the last section cut so close to the heart.  We have to be willing to be vulnerable if we want to learn our wife’s heart.

So, practically, this means that we, as husbands, need to be talking to our wives.  If you need a handful of suggestions about what to talk about, he provides a few:

  1. Bible Doctrine – Does your wife feel comfortable talking with you about what the Bible says?  Asking you questions?
  2. Your home – It’s the “base of operations” for your wife’s ministry.  “The condition and appearance of your home is probably more important to her than you realize.”
  3. The children – Dad, your the manager in the home, and you’re the one ultimately responsible.  You should be talking about your children.
  4. Your job – Since she’s your helper she may be able to help you better if she knows what’s gone on during your day– no matter how much you don’t want to talk about it.
  5. Her family (your in-laws) – There have been many Biblical conflicts that had inlaws at the center of them.  You need to have Biblical conversations about her family and their influence.
  6. Her friends – Do you care about who she chooses as friends?  They can influence her for good or evil.  You have an outside view in, you should be giving her the benefit of your perspective.
  7. Her ministries (inside and outside of the home) – “Life is a ministry.”  Are you encouraging her to minister outside the home?  Are you helping her discover her gifts for service?
  8. Her goals for the future – Personal goals, goals of mutual interest, and other goals she has should be exciting for us as well.
  9. Specific ways you can be a better husband and father – Again with the humility.  But then again, she is a helper, and has a perspective that we don’t.  “When was the last time you asked you wife for her evaluation of how you’re doing in these areas?”
  10. Things you do which bother her – This topic is guaranteed to provide you hours of interesting discussion.

Whew– and that’s only to get your started!


By now you know, the link is to where you can pick up the book. This post is all mine.

Who Is Esaias Anyway?

March 22nd, 2011 Viewed 4044 times, 2 so far today
(KJV) 1631 Holy Bible, Robert Barker/John Bill...

(KJV) 1631 Holy Bible, Robert Barker/John Bill, London. King James Version (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

For a moment, let’s accept the KJV Only argument that the King James is the best translation from a manuscript standpoint as well as from tradition.  My question, that has yet to be answered, is “Why has it not been updated since the 1800?”

To give a reference, here’s something that always baffled me as a kid.  Who is Esaias?

Matthew 3:3 – For this is he that was spoken of by the prophet Esaias, saying, The voice of one crying in the wilderness, Prepare ye the way of the Lord, make his paths straight.

Paul and the Old Testament

April 23rd, 2008 Viewed 1597 times, 1 so far today

Bible and Cross I never would have guessed that the Old Testament would pose so many problems to people as I was growing up.  I mean, sure, I knew that there were laws that we didn’t follow any more.  I mean, when’s the last time I headed to the temple to kill a sheep?  I guess I never had to stop and think through the whole thing, and though reading recent discussions I can understand why many non-believers actually think that Christians are pretty selective when it comes to what they choose to follow and what they choose not to follow.

So, it sounds like something to cover, to help those that may never have thought through it, and perhaps help some make sense of it all.

The Problem With the Culture Argument

February 25th, 2008 Viewed 2928 times, 1 so far today

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There are many things in the Bible that we do not adhere to in today’s church.  We do not teach them as commands.  We don’t encourage people to follow them.  We try to ignore that they are even in the Bible.  And we do this because they are counter-cultural and inconvenient.

And this is part of the reasons that Christians aren’t taken seriously.  I can’t tell you how many conversations I have gotten into with unbelievers that follow this basic order:

  • We’ve all sinned and the Bible defines sin.
  • The Old Testament says that you shouldn’t do XYZ.
  • You do XYZ.
  • Aren’t you sinning?

And then after trying to get out of that one, the real fun begins.

Godly Husband: How Are You Treating "Your" Body

March 15th, 2007 Viewed 5050 times, 1 so far today

olderhusbandandwifeheader.jpgThere are two commands in the New Testament that are very similar.  One of them was the one that we covered with the wives is a previous post.  That one had to do with the fact that your body is not your own, and neither is hers. The Word of God asks Godly Wives to make sure that they are intimately available.

The other passage that I think is related, and of special importance for us men as we think about our spouse’s body being ours and vice versa, is the one that says that we are to love our neighbor as ourselves.

You see, no one has to be taught to love themselves– we do it automatically.  As is obvious with the current trend of justifying everything because it’s something we want to do, we know that people naturally seek their own best interest, and it’s tempting to do this in the area of marriage and sex as well.

Relating to Sex

You see, I don’t think that we men have the same dilemma when it comes to being intimate or seeking intimacy as the women do.  Certainly we do have the problem in the way we approach it, how much time it takes, and whether we’re all about a single act (pardon my bluntness) or include the whole emotional aspect of it.

What we need to realize is that if her body is ours, and we are to love our neighbor, that means that there are certain times that we are going to have to choose not to exercise our ownership for the good of your wife.  There are times where it’s not physically, emotionally or otherwise wise to engage in that kind of activity.  There are times where you are going to have to be more giving than receiving.

Men, we need to not use this passage to force our wives to do something that they don’t want to do, while at the same time realizing that we belong to them as well, and since they are our most treasured vessel we are to be taking great care with them.

Relating to Grooming

The other area that I think is important when thinking about your body being hers is that it is important that she be able to comment on how she would like you to look and you take her suggestions to heart and consider implementing them.

When you were dating, you’d do anything that your girl friend suggested.  Why is it when you get married (and your body is not your own anymore) that you now suddenly “have rights”?  I’m not saying that you should totally change your lifestyle, but I am saying that you should be open to her input, and aim to please her!

Seeking your wife’s happiness in your presentation is important– and I believe that you’ll see that she’ll try harder to please you in her appearance as well!

Godly Wife: How Does Your Husband Grow?

January 23rd, 2007 Viewed 5077 times

When my wife and I got married, an old family friend gave us each books on our roles in marriage. Her’s was The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace and mine was The Complete Husband by Lou Priolo. One of the things that Priolo does early in his book is to talk about the roles that we have, and specifically what we were created to do.

Godly Wife, you– just like your husband– were created to be a companion and someone that helps your spouse grow. You know the most about him (hopefully!). You should know his weak points, the areas that he needs work, and should be studying to grow in your walk with God.

Godly Husband: Do You Do Too Much?

January 4th, 2007 Viewed 5104 times, 1 so far today

olderhusbandandwifeheader.jpgHusbands, let’s be honest, there are many times when we have our priorities out of whack. There are a lot of things we as guys would like to do, some we need to do, and some we just plain refuse to do. But the reason that we use to determine which category life’s tasks fall into is often how it impacts what “I want to do” or “what I feel like doing” rather than is it what is best for our families.

This is closely coupled with where the request is coming from. If it’s a request to do something in the home, I think that we’re much more inclined to say we don’t want to do it or it is someone else’s job than we are to step up to the plate and do it. However, for some, if it’s from the outside (say a boss, a pastor, etc.) we’re more inclined to take on responsibility that takes away from time with our family.

I’ve just come off a three year stint as Deacon in my local church. When I started, we were expecting our second child, and I asked the pastor just how much time the job would entail. He told me that they have a monthly meeting and occasionally a meeting on a weekend if there was something important to discuss.

That was before the pastor resigned, the church split, I had to take over as pulpit committee chair, and then got picked for deacon chair and have had yet another controversial issue come to the front. All the while, one meeting a month became one meeting a week, and the meetings ran from when I got out of work until when my kids were in bed.

When it came time for nominations, I told the pastor that I was not willing to to be on this year because I needed a chance to clear my head, and because of the soon arrival of our fourth child. Young children, as I’m sure you are aware, need a lot of time and attention if you want to bring them up in a godly home.

I say all this to illustrate that men naturally (or should have) have a sense of duty and honor that makes them want to step up to the plate and complete the task. Well, you stepped up to the plate on your wedding day and said that you’d be with your wife in a lot of different conditions– and that included doing the tasks in the home that you may not want to do. It also included not taking on too many responsibilities that keep you out of the home.

Paul talks in the New Testament about the glories of the single life, and the big one that he mentions that relates to this topic is that he says that the married person has to be concerned with how he ministers to his wife, rather than the single person who can be totally consumed with his ministry to God.

Godly Husband, do you do too much to be of good use to your family? If so, it’s time to start practicing saying “no.”

Godly Husband: Are You a Leader?

November 27th, 2006 Viewed 5871 times, 1 so far today

olderhusbandandwifeheader.jpgMen, are you the spiritual leader in your home?  I can hear the excuses now:

  • But she knows more scripture than I do!
  • Women are better at praying than men are.
  • I take the family to church, don’t I?
  • Did you say supper was on the table?

Spiritual Gifts

September 15th, 2006 Viewed 4107 times, 1 so far today

The issue of Spiritual Gifts is one that divides Christianity multiple ways because of what people expect from a church because of their culture.

To begin any discussion of Spiritual gifts requires me to define what I’m talking about.  I believe that the Bible clearly speaks to the concept that each believer, upon salvation, is given a number of gifts (as few as one, but can be many) of which they are to use to edify the church.  Different believers are given different gifts that complement each other in the local assembly.  We can see this in Paul’s Epistles to the Corinthians were Paul says that the gifts are complementary and necessary.

Problems come into play because of the nature of the gifts, so I guess I should list what the gifts are/were.  Gifts of the spirit differ from fruit of the spirit– they usually had an action and purpose.  They include speaking in tongues, healing, prophecy, exhorting, teaching, administration, helps, hospitality, and others.  The ones that are dividing the church are the first three.

In order to understand the debate that’s swirling, you need to understand the appeal and importance.  In the book of Acts, chapter 9, we see that tongues was used as a marker– or sign– gift to demonstrate that a Gentile named Cornelius was, in fact, a Christian.  Up until this point, Peter believed that only Jews could be saved, and God was making a point.

What were tongues?  Contrary to my good friend Stephen, I don’t believe that tongues are not foreign languages.  I believe that there were actually two forms of tongues.  One of my reasons for believing this is that in Acts 2 where the gift was first present there were many people gathered and they all heard what was being said in their native tongue.  The other supporting reference is in I Corinthians 13 where Paul clearly delineates that he speaks in the tongues of men and angels.  Granted that the tongues of men could be his own native tongue, but highly unlikely given the plural tongues.

However, I believe that this was a sign gift that expired.  If you look at the rest of the I Corinthians passage you see the statement that tongues would cease.  I believe that God used tongues at the beginning of the church to fulfill a prophecy in Joel, to give His stamp of approval on the Apostles, and to get the church up and running.  I don’t believe that it is in widespread use now.

MInTheGap

Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.