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Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.

11 Questions to Ask Your Wife

July 8th, 2014 Viewed 1836 times
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The Complete Husband
By Lou Priolo

The best way to get to know your wife is to talk to her.  But instead of asking her about the weather, try instead to ask her things that build your relationship– intimate questions.

In the second chapter (entitled Back to School for the Rest of My Life!) of our book, the author suggests 11 questions that we can ask our wives to get to know them better.  Warning, these are not for the faint of heart:

  1. If you could change three things about me that would make me more Christ-like, what would you change?
  2. Do I have any other annoying mannerisms or irritating idiosyncrasies that you would like to see me change?
  3. How does it make you feel when I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
  4. What goes through your mind when I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
  5. What do you want from me that I’m not giving you at the moment I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
  6. What specifically would you like to see me do to change in this area (name something that you know displeases her)?
  7. On a scale from one to ten, how would you rate our marriage?
  8. What would it take to make our marriage a ten?
  9. What is your opinion about?
  10. What personal goals do you have for your life?  How may I help you achieve them?
  11. Do you have any needs or desires that you believe I ought to be meeting or fulfilling better than I do?  What are they?

He then goes on to tell us to add further questions of our own.

One thing’s for sure, if you start with these questions I’m sure your wife will say some interesting things!


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I Wish She Came With an Owners Manual

July 6th, 2014 Viewed 1493 times
737353: The Complete Husband
The Complete Husband
By Lou Priolo

Guys, let’s face it. There are some times that you wish she came with an owner’s manual. Something that would tell you all kinds of things about her:

  • Proper care and maintenance.
  • How to read her emotional meters.
  • Ways to make her run at optimal efficiency.
  • What to do when something goes wrong.

The truth is, she does come with a manual, it just needs to be extracted and written down:

The reason that you’ve never seen it is because it’s tucked away in her heart. Deep down in her heart is all the personal information you need to understand and nurture your wife according to the Bible.

Marriage is a Committment

July 1st, 2014 Viewed 1231 times

This is something one dad did for his daughter and soon to be son-in-law:

With Ashley’s wedding coming up, I wondered how we could incorporate the concept of covenant in the ceremony. Then I had an inspiration. We took Ashley and Michael’s wedding vows to a calligrapher who inscribed them on a sheet of pure cotton paper.

During their wedding ceremony, after stating their vows verbally, the couple turned and signed their marriage covenant. There was space at the bottom of the covenant for others to sign, and the pastor asked if anyone in the audience wanted to witness the marriage covenant. By doing so people would pledge to pray for Michael and Ashley and promise to hold them accountable for keeping their covenant. A line formed quickly.

Ashley and Michael’s covenant now hangs in their home, a constant reminder of their promise of fidelity to each other and of the promise of God to guard and sustain their marriage. It also reminds the rest of us to pray for them and hold them accountable to their vows.

Read the whole story at Family Life. Hat Tip: When Dennis Rainey got it right.

Unwed Pregnancies are a Product of Western Culture

November 22nd, 2011 Viewed 2647 times, 2 so far today

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In a recent article on sex education at The Week, the question was posed, “Should sex educators teach kids about pleasure?”  The responses were mixed, and the comments were along the same line—they’re going to do it anyway.

This has been the common refrain with discussions of birth control, abortion and unwed moms, but rather than going down the path of deciding the best method of prevention, I would rather like to focus on the fact that these problems are of our own design.

Like many things, unplanned pregnancies and unwed sex are the result of Western culture—specifically how we’ve chosen to view courtship, love, and marriage.

I believe that we have done our children a great disservice by changing from the traditional marriage arrangement with parental involvement for the betterment of the family to one that is based on emotions, feelings, and impulses.

National Single and Unmarried Americans Week

September 22nd, 2011 Viewed 1774 times

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Did you know that it is the National Single and Unmarried American’s Week?  Neither did I until I learned it from the New York Times!  They believe that it’s a shame that we push people into marriage.  Personal experience tells me that people in general don’t seem to have that problem.

The value of marriage is significantly less than it has ever been, and I believe this is for a variety of reasons:

The Worse Part

March 11th, 2010 Viewed 1727 times, 1 so far today

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Lila’s best friend is getting married—and she’s the maid of honor.  She’s single, and has longed to find the perfect man, and has a revelation during the wedding ceremony that most couples want to forget as well—that marriage is for better or worse.

Save It For When You’re Married

February 27th, 2010 Viewed 1910 times

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In the movie Chitty Chitty Bang Bang, the two young children that live with their widower father are all excited because they feel that if their father kisses the lovely leading lady then “they’ll have to get married.”  Today, the leading lady and man move in together while he’s recovering from a divorce.

Our society has changed a lot over a couple of generations to the point that many of the things that we would expect to hear about self-control and decency we no longer hear.

Courting: The Only Way To Find a Mate

December 9th, 2009 Viewed 1745 times

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On November 19, Katy Case entered into a courtship relationship with a young man, with the intent that she would marry him.  I’m very excited for her, in that she has left one stage of life and is preparing to walk into another.

I believe that part of the way to fix the current erosion of the institution of marriage lies in not only speaking out about those that would change the definition, but helping those that are going to be or are in marriages to respect it as well.  To that end, I believe that the courtship movement illustrates a series of good philosophies that any parent should employ to help their children during the transition between child and adult, between single and married.

Polygamy and Divorce

July 29th, 2009 Viewed 2363 times, 1 so far today

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It’s not a new concept.  It’s stated in the book of Genesis that it didn’t take long from the point of creation for the first man to decide that he wanted to take to himself two wives.  Shortly after that we have a situation where the patriarchs of the Israelite people had multiple wives and children from them.

The Arab people believe that they can marry up to 4 women, and that their system or marrying multiple women is superior to our culture that has men and women marrying and divorcing multiple times—also called “serial monogamy.”

Mark Sanford—The Real Story

June 24th, 2009 Viewed 2195 times

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When the story first broke yesterday about Gov. Sanford of South Carolina being “out of pocket”1 I figured that this was possibly a case of someone that was trying to get away from the pressures of work and wanted to keep his location to himself as much as possible.

However, when we heard today that his wife and children had no idea where he had gone, my mind wondered if there was a chance that he was having an affair.  Turns out that unfortunately my hunch was right.

  1. They originally claimed that he was hiking the Appalachian Trail, but then they found out that he was actually in South America. []

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