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By the Book – Marriage from the Israelite Law – Part 1

March 18th, 2018 Viewed 211 times, 3 so far today

In order to understand marriage from a Biblical sense, you need to set aside your current understanding of modern marriage and start to explore what the Bible says about men and women and marriage– what does it say in the law, and how were these things done back then.

What was the status of a single woman?

“Ask me for as great a bride-price and gift as you will, and I will give whatever you say to me. Only give me the young woman to be my wife.” – Genesis 34:12

If a man seduces a virgin who is not betrothed and lies with her, he shall give the bride-price for her and make her his wife.
– Exodus 22:16

The unmarried woman was considered to be a virgin, and she lived in her father’s house under his protection until such time as a man came and sought her out to be his bride. This could be for any number of reasons. Samson saw a woman and was physically attracted to her and requested that his father get her to make her his bride. Jacob fell for the beauty of Rachel and worked 14 years for her (again, a price for her). Abraham sent out his servant with money and possessions to procure Rebekah for Isaac. Throughout the Old Testament, the arrangement of marriage was more a financial transaction than one where compatibility was sought.

The unmarried woman, living in her father’s house, was transferred into her husband’s jurisdiction by his payment of the ‘bride price’ (Heb. mohar) to her father. If a man seduced a girl, he had to pay the bride price as a penalty and make her his legal wife.

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Marriage and the Book of Ezra

December 7th, 2016 Viewed 1668 times

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There are difficult passages in the Bible– ones that, on the surface, don’t seem to square with ones we find in other places.  One of these passages is in the book of Ezra.  In Ezra 10, Ezra the priest has read the law that he found in the temple and has come across a problem– the exiles from Israel had transgressed the law of God in regards to marrying foreign women.  God wanted Israel to stay pure and only to marry other Israelites.  Some of the captives even had children with these foreign women.  What to do?

Ezra and the priests decide that all those who had married foreign wives must put them away, or divorce them.  If they had children, they should be put away as well.  This would be an arduous task, and they expected it to take some time to be pure again.

Why Is a Couple That Chooses to Be Abstinent Surprising?

July 8th, 2015 Viewed 793 times

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In the last month saw the creation of a “marriage” between two people of the same sex, a Olympic medalist announce to the world that he is now a she, and revelations that Bristol Palin is expecting again and that contestants on the Bachelorette show have intimate relations not just before marriage, but also before they are “supposed to” in terms of what’s planned on the show.

So you know what’s really bothering people now?  That a celebrity couple would dare stay abstinent until marriage:

Seattle Seahawks quarterback Russell Wilson is getting candid about his relationship with Ciara.

In a sit-down with Pastor Miles McPherson of The Rock Church in San Diego, Wilson opened up about his life, his beliefs, and taking sex with his girlfriend off the table.

"I met this girl named Ciara, who is the most beautiful woman in the world," he gushed. "She’s the most kind person, the most engaging person."

Is Marriage Making You Fat?

July 1st, 2015 Viewed 1210 times

I have to say that I think it’s more because you’re eating regularly, you’re enjoying the company of your spouse, etc.

Marriage doesn’t just add to your happiness, but also to your waistline, according to a new study. But singles shouldn’t boast just yet. German and Swiss researchers surveyed 10,226 people in nine European countries on their marital status and body mass index—a health indicator based on a person’s height and weight—as well as their eating and exercise habits.

The results, which factored in socioeconomic status, age, and nationality, show marriage really does make you pack on the pounds: an extra 4.5 pounds in average-height 5-foot-11 men and 5-foot-5 women, to be precise, reports Medical Daily.  – This is how much weight marriage packs on, study says

5 Reasons Reality Dating Shows are Bad for the Institution of Marriage

June 17th, 2015 Viewed 1176 times, 1 so far today

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Reality shows are anything but reality, and while much can be said about how they are also engineered to get the most views for advertisers, the real danger is what they are doing to our culture as far as our sacred institutions.  The biggest impact is on the institution of marriage—for what better drama is there to see than that which is played out between dating, courtship and marriage.

1. They Trivialize Commitment

Whether it is the Bachelor, Bachelorette, Married at First Sight, or Joe Millionaire, they all have one foundational flaw—they trivialize marriage.  They do this by using a sacred bond as something to sell advertisements.  To do this, they have to provide something people want to see—and most people want to see things that go wrong.

Strengthening Your Marriage

June 9th, 2015 Viewed 1059 times

wedding-colection.jpgWhat are you doing today to strengthen your marriage?  Marriage is not something that you can take for granted.  Even though we believe that wedding vows are important and should be the glue that binds people together, just like any other thing that is in this world, marriages change as time passes.

The Time Warp Wife gives us 3 Things You Can Do, Right Now, To Strengthen Your Marriage. All three of these are spot on; however, I think that the best thing that you can do to strengthen your marriage has to be about your inner heart attitude towards your spouse.  Obviously God has to have highest priority in your life, but next to that, does your spouse have a high priority?

Surprise Your Spouse

June 8th, 2015 Viewed 1156 times

Kissing-the-Wife.jpgEngaged Marriage has a list of 12 Romantic Surprises to Make Your Spouse Smile.  The one that I found the most interesting was:

7. Play one of these games and don’t tell them the new rules until the game begins:  Clue, Scrabble, Putt-Putt

There are some really good ones there, so if you’re looking to put a little surprise in your relationship, head on over and check them out!

Father’s Day Around the Corner

May 27th, 2015 Viewed 1215 times

While many people collect postcards or other trinkets, I’ve been one to collect t-shirts.  Everywhere I went I picked one up, and it shows by my dresser drawers full of clothing.  It’s hard to part with them, even if someone gave them to me!

11 Questions to Ask Your Wife

July 8th, 2014 Viewed 1455 times
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The Complete Husband
By Lou Priolo

The best way to get to know your wife is to talk to her.  But instead of asking her about the weather, try instead to ask her things that build your relationship– intimate questions.

In the second chapter (entitled Back to School for the Rest of My Life!) of our book, the author suggests 11 questions that we can ask our wives to get to know them better.  Warning, these are not for the faint of heart:

  1. If you could change three things about me that would make me more Christ-like, what would you change?
  2. Do I have any other annoying mannerisms or irritating idiosyncrasies that you would like to see me change?
  3. How does it make you feel when I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
  4. What goes through your mind when I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
  5. What do you want from me that I’m not giving you at the moment I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
  6. What specifically would you like to see me do to change in this area (name something that you know displeases her)?
  7. On a scale from one to ten, how would you rate our marriage?
  8. What would it take to make our marriage a ten?
  9. What is your opinion about?
  10. What personal goals do you have for your life?  How may I help you achieve them?
  11. Do you have any needs or desires that you believe I ought to be meeting or fulfilling better than I do?  What are they?

He then goes on to tell us to add further questions of our own.

One thing’s for sure, if you start with these questions I’m sure your wife will say some interesting things!


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I Wish She Came With an Owners Manual

July 6th, 2014 Viewed 1128 times
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The Complete Husband
By Lou Priolo

Guys, let’s face it. There are some times that you wish she came with an owner’s manual. Something that would tell you all kinds of things about her:

  • Proper care and maintenance.
  • How to read her emotional meters.
  • Ways to make her run at optimal efficiency.
  • What to do when something goes wrong.

The truth is, she does come with a manual, it just needs to be extracted and written down:

The reason that you’ve never seen it is because it’s tucked away in her heart. Deep down in her heart is all the personal information you need to understand and nurture your wife according to the Bible.

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