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Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.

Our Sunday Best – 1 Corinthians 14:26-40, 1 Timothy 2:8-15

June 25th, 2018 Viewed 550 times, 2 so far today

Where Does Paul Derive His Instruction about the Men/Women in the Church?

First, Paul appeals to the fact that God is not the author of confusion. Next, he takes on the idea that the man is the spiritual leader in the home (Deut 6). Adam and Eve get another mention in 1 Tim 2.

What are the commands in these passages?

  • All done in church is for edification and needs to be done in order.
  • Those that are not speaking should weigh what has been said.
  • Women are to keep silent and submissive in church.
  • A woman is to ask of her husband if there is something she wishes to learn.
  • Women should be adorned modestly, showing her good works.
  • Women are not to exercise authority over a man.

Is the Pastor/Teacher/Leader Always Right?

This passage would imply that the answer is no—even if it’s someone that’s prophesying, there were to be those that judged what was said to determine whether it was so. Paul indicated that we should be aware of false teachers and false teaching, as well as the Bereans were commended for searching out the Scriptures after hearing teaching. We are not to be passive learners. This underscores the power of the home as spiritual center (Deut 6) as the woman was to seek her “head” to learn, and not just learn from that which was taught because she could be more easily deceived.

What Is a Church?

If these are rules for a gathering of the church, what is a meeting of the church? Does that include Bible Studies? Sunday School? Just Worship Services? Are we violating these teachings by how we allow for questions from anyone from any sex? In the early days, they met in homes and had more like home Bible Studies, so the idea that it’s just for in the church does not seem to fit. And yet, what would this look like?

Is the Command Cultural?

Perhaps this command was only for them, as the women might have been less educated in spiritual things, and maybe men were less tolerant and considered it high disrespect for his wife to be holding forth on the word over him. And yet what man wants another man telling his wife what is right or wrong in the Lord if that’s his duty? Perhaps the problem that we have is that men have become passive in their responsibility both to their wives and to the Scripture. They have allowed the Pastor to take the position of Spiritual authority for his home, which the Bible never gives him. While the Pastor is to care for the flock, he is never given that place of Spiritual Authority of someone else’s home any more than any other believer pointing out sin.

Discipleship Modeled

April 26th, 2018 Viewed 568 times, 1 so far today

What does Christian Discipleship look like?

The idea of having disciples or apprentices was not a new one to the time. In fact, our modern forms of education would look foreign and wrong to people who passed on their skills to primarily their children and a few other apprentices. It was very common for parents to teach their sons their trade, and then, if they wanted to learn another one, they would always have their primary trade to fall back upon.

If you were headed in a Spiritual direction, you would learn in Scriptures occurred at the feet of a rabbi. This is what Paul is referring to in Acts 22:3 that his heritage was who he grew up under. This is why it wasn’t unheard of to have Jesus choose disciples, for many learned Rabbis would have disciples that would learn what they knew to follow in their footsteps.

photo by: Chris Yarzab

What it Means to Be Submissive to Him

April 14th, 2015 Viewed 1643 times

On October 22, 1971, while sitting in a car looking over the sea at a place called “Manly” in Brisbane, Australia, I asked Mally to marry me. (Can you imagine getting engaged at “Manly”?!) At the moment she said those beautiful words “I will!” neither of us had any idea of where the Lord would lead us. Many years later I realized how God had been preparing each of us for the special ministry we were to be called into, for 15 years later, in 1986, Mally and I made an important decision that would change our lives dramatically.

So begins the powerful story written by Ken and Steve Ham talking about Ken’s move from Australia to an entirely different culture and how that move echoes Ruth in the Bible and how that plays out in family life in A Girl Named Ruth.

Don’t Seek The Spotlight

March 4th, 2010 Viewed 1840 times

carrieprejeansmile

One doesn’t participate in the Miss USA pageant because they’re timid, modest and reserved.  They may get in it for the college money, for the recognition of their beauty, or because they have a competitive spirit.

The problem with seeking fame is that always comes with a cost.

In Galatians, the Bible talks about how leaders will be held to a higher standard, and we see how that plays out in the life of Carrie Prejean, for she ended up being a leader in a different way than she originally had planned.

To Meet the Wife’s Needs/Wants

October 5th, 2006 Viewed 13493 times

One of the most radical statements (in terms of what people believe the Bible says in regards to husbands and wives) that I think I could make about the responsibility of the father in the home is that he is supposed to be meeting the wife’s needs.

Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. – 1 Corinthians 7:13

And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church. – 1 Corinthians 14:35

Physically, we are to be meeting her needs on every level. She has submitted to us in the leadership in the home, and she is trusting us to provide for her. This means that we must be willing to sacrifice our desires and wants at times so that she may have hers. That means that we need to seek her pleasure and happiness above our own. That is what she’s required to seek as well.

The passage that the first verse is taken from continues on to say that the wife’s body is not her own, neither the husband’s body his own. Guys, let’s be frank. I think far too often we like to use this verse to say that we deserve sex whenever the mood hits us (which is probably more often than it hits her!), but we fail to see the point of our bodies not being our own. Sure, we’re supposed to be physically intimate, but this passage could also be read to mean that we should be taking care of ourselves in a way that pleases her.

This could easily be taken to mean that we should make sure that we’re awake and willing to converse with her. This could mean that we should seek to dress, smell, and look a way that pleases her. It is, after all, what we use this passage to ask of her, right? I mean, we like to pick out flirty things for her to wear to please us (which she probably does) and yet do we do and wear things to please her? Our body is not our own, remember?

And then there’s the responsibility to meet our wife’s spiritual needs. If she’s supposed to come to us with questions that she’s not supposed to ask in church, we should certainly be in the Word so that we can have an answer! Not only that, but we, as the husband-leaders, should be looking at our family’s life and seeking to improve our spiritual walks. We should be leading the family in devotions. We should be looking for ways to apply scripture to our everyday conduct. We should be sharing with her the things that we learn from the Bible or questions that have come up.

I fear that we’re so concerned with ourselves and our rights in this area, men, that we are missing the blessing of being able to serve and love the wife God gave us. Oh, and if you think she loves, cares and does a lot for you now– how could she respond if you took your meeting of her needs/wants up a notch?

How a Wife Was Defined

May 2nd, 2005 Viewed 2350 times

Happy CoupleThe next thing that I found particularly fascinating about the role of the sexes in the Old Testament narratives is how the husband and wife treated each other. Specifically, recall the passage in Hebrews where it said that Sarah called Abraham her “lord.” This is quite different today.

Today we live in a society that has done two things to marriage. They’ve made it “all about love” so that if you’re no longer “in love” why be in it. The other thing is that they’ve made it more about expressing my individuality than in being a unit.

True Leadership

May 13th, 2004 Viewed 1578 times

I have been reading through “The Complete Husband” as part of trying to strengthen my marriage.  Near the end of the book, the author speaks about being a Spiritual leader in the home.  What’s striking is how different it is from leaders that are in our daily lives.

Christ’s command is that leaders be servants.  His example was washing the disciple’s feet before the last supper.  He made statements like he who is first shall be last and vice versa. From President down to husband, Christ’s directive was that leaders should be servants first and foremost.

This would rectify power corrupting of a leader were a servant, more than playing the servant.  A Presidential candidate plays the servant when he kisses babies, shakes hands, and goes on listening tours, but then after elected does whatever he wants.  That’s why there’s so much contempt for government.  In every case where it seems a given person plays the hypocrite with people, there is distrust and hurt.

The leader whose true motives are the people that he leads will, first and foremost, be their servant.

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Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.