MInTheGap

Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.

Surprise Your Spouse

June 8th, 2015 Viewed 1620 times

Kissing-the-Wife.jpgEngaged Marriage has a list of 12 Romantic Surprises to Make Your Spouse Smile.  The one that I found the most interesting was:

7. Play one of these games and don’t tell them the new rules until the game begins:  Clue, Scrabble, Putt-Putt

There are some really good ones there, so if you’re looking to put a little surprise in your relationship, head on over and check them out!

Father’s Day Around the Corner

May 27th, 2015 Viewed 1642 times

While many people collect postcards or other trinkets, I’ve been one to collect t-shirts.  Everywhere I went I picked one up, and it shows by my dresser drawers full of clothing.  It’s hard to part with them, even if someone gave them to me!

101 Ways To Show Love To Your Wife

April 10th, 2015 Viewed 1455 times

It is harder, I believe, to pin down exactly what you can do to love a wife simply because love takes so many different forms and is very different per individual.  Respect is something that there is general agreement between men, with some minor discrepancies here and there, but showing love can certainly differ.  So, while I humbly submit this list, I do so with the disclaimer that “your mileage may vary,” meaning it will be different depending on the woman.  There are no guarantees and batteries are never included.

11 Questions to Ask Your Wife

July 8th, 2014 Viewed 1779 times, 1 so far today
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The Complete Husband
By Lou Priolo

The best way to get to know your wife is to talk to her.  But instead of asking her about the weather, try instead to ask her things that build your relationship– intimate questions.

In the second chapter (entitled Back to School for the Rest of My Life!) of our book, the author suggests 11 questions that we can ask our wives to get to know them better.  Warning, these are not for the faint of heart:

  1. If you could change three things about me that would make me more Christ-like, what would you change?
  2. Do I have any other annoying mannerisms or irritating idiosyncrasies that you would like to see me change?
  3. How does it make you feel when I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
  4. What goes through your mind when I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
  5. What do you want from me that I’m not giving you at the moment I… (name something that you know displeases her)?
  6. What specifically would you like to see me do to change in this area (name something that you know displeases her)?
  7. On a scale from one to ten, how would you rate our marriage?
  8. What would it take to make our marriage a ten?
  9. What is your opinion about?
  10. What personal goals do you have for your life?  How may I help you achieve them?
  11. Do you have any needs or desires that you believe I ought to be meeting or fulfilling better than I do?  What are they?

He then goes on to tell us to add further questions of our own.

One thing’s for sure, if you start with these questions I’m sure your wife will say some interesting things!


The link above is an affiliate link. I get a portion of the proceeds if you choose to purchase it (though the price does not change). I was not paid to write this post.

Why I Would Never Be On Wife Swap

September 19th, 2012 Viewed 1884 times

Cherry Blossom Couple HeaderI’m sure that if you haven’t ever watched a show then you’ve at least heard of the concept.  Two couples—usually from wildly different backgrounds—offer to have their wives trade places for the week.  Usually it entails the wife living under the host family’s rules for a day or so, followed by the guest implementing new rules for a day or so, then a big meet up where everyone talks about what they have learned about.

Polygamy and Divorce

July 29th, 2009 Viewed 2306 times, 2 so far today

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It’s not a new concept.  It’s stated in the book of Genesis that it didn’t take long from the point of creation for the first man to decide that he wanted to take to himself two wives.  Shortly after that we have a situation where the patriarchs of the Israelite people had multiple wives and children from them.

The Arab people believe that they can marry up to 4 women, and that their system or marrying multiple women is superior to our culture that has men and women marrying and divorcing multiple times—also called “serial monogamy.”

Caption Contest 10 – Angry Husband

July 28th, 2008 Viewed 2072 times, 1 so far today

Anger arguing What is he so mad about?  That’s your challenge for this week.  What is his deal, anyway?

Could it be that she forgot to make his food just the way he liked it?  Did she just get on his case for leaving the seat up again?  Did she just donate a whole bunch of his clothes to the Charity without asking?

There are many reason why we lose our cool, and many of them are really quite comical.

This should be an easy one for both the men and the ladies, as I’m sure that you could come up with the most hilarious and down right ridiculous things to throw fits over.

Or will it hit too close to home?

Support Your Wife

May 14th, 2008 Viewed 1851 times

wedding colection A new reader wrote to me via Meebo and asked a question.  I was not online at the time, so there was no way for me to respond, but here is the text:

I came across your website tonight after listening to a radio program today. I am a Christian and a member of a Baptist Church. I am aware in Eph. where it says “Husband’s love your wife as Christ loves the Church.” And women, submit yourselves unto your husbands” What I want to know is…. Does the Bible say that it’s the responsibility to support the wife? In a program I heard today on the radio, the Pastor said that a husband should make provisions for his wife (financially) for after his death, or he was not right with the Lord. He also said, that women who for whatever reason have become divorced, their children have a responsibility to provide for their mother. I am asking this question because my husband and I greatly differ on this subject. We have been married for many years, but were briefly divorced and remarried to each other. He is firm minded on NOT leaving me his investments upon his death. He is willing to leave me his life insurance which is now only $60,000 and lessens by $5,000 each [I assume there was more to the message, but here is where it ended.]

All in the Family

March 14th, 2008 Viewed 5549 times

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We have come a long way in America.  Especially when it comes to equality, and yet I’m not sure if all of the advances that we have made have been positive.

For one thing, the family as a unit is in shambles.  Marriage has been devalued to the point that people are asking “why get married” and believing that there’s no value to the vows, a public commitment or to even living a life until death.

To judge just how far we’ve come, take a look at this picture:

Godly Husband: Do You Nourish and Cherish Your Wife?

April 19th, 2007 Viewed 14151 times, 3 so far today

olderhusbandandwifeheader.jpgOne of the final commands to the husbands in Ephesians 5 contains two words:

For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: – Eph 5:29

These two words are seldom linked to things that men are typically used to doing. Nourishing has the idea of feeding– and we tend to look at this as something that wives and mothers do. Cherishing just seems foreign to us, so what do these words mean in the context of marriage, and what are we to do?

Nourish means “to bring to maturity.”

Maturity comes through a variety of ways. One way is through the humbling of oneself and putting another first. By the very fact that we are our wife’s husband we have introduced someone into her life that she has to reach beyond to love and care for. Are we making this easy for her or difficult?

Another way to bring to maturity is through instruction and experience. Things happen in our lives that we can either have plans for or we can consider a crisis. How we plan and lead our families shows our wives how to handle things in a godly fashion. Are we demonstrating a mature life to our wife?

Maturity also comes through instruction. By being faithful in the Word and sharing with our wife those things that we learn, we are able to grow her in the knowledge of the Word. Are we giving her opportunities to grow?

Cherish means “To soften with heat.”

Cherishing is something that every woman wants and desires, and is different for every woman. Your wife wants special attention. They want to be recognized. They want to know that they are special to you. Are you reminding them of that?

But going beyond that, do you make a special time to communicate with your wife? The problem with most men is that they have the attitude that they have a list of things to get done and taking time for talking, cuddling, etc. isn’t on their list unless it somehow leads to “the main event.”

What are you planning to do today to cherish your wife?

Question Idea taken from From Dreadlock to Wedlock

MInTheGap

Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.