Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.

A Woman’s Roles

July 7th, 2014 Viewed 1296 times
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The Complete Husband
By Lou Priolo

In order for husbands to know their wives better, they need to know both about women in general and their woman (you) in particular.  You see, ladies, sometimes your very patterns of behavior totally confuse a man, especially when he thinks he has you figured out.

Like take an average trip to Wal*Mart.  I was sent to go pick up the yogurt for the week.  Knowing that Virtuous Blonde has mentioned in the past that she likes Key Lime Pie Yogurt, I pick up a bunch– thinking that I’ve gotten her favorite kind to eat.

After getting home and eating them for a few days, I begin to wonder why she’s eating the yogurt I picked out for myself, since there are still more Key Line Pie Yogurts in the refrigerator.  It turns out that she really doesn’t like those any more– but unlike my computer that notifies me that an update is available, she didn’t tell me.

Back to roles, since it’s important for Husbands and Wives to know their Biblical roles, Lou Priolo has a chart, which I will condense here:

Woman’s Role / Responsibility Scripture Reference
To be a suitable helper Genesis 2:18
To be submissive to her husband Ephesians 5:22
To glorify her husband 1 Corinthians 11:7-9
To reverence her husband Ephesians 5:33
To adorn herself with a meek and quiet spirit 1 Peter 3:3-4
To be pure and respectful in her conduct 1 Peter 3:2
To be wise and kind in word (and heart) Proverbs 31:26
An Older Woman is:

  • To be reverent in behavior
  • To not be enslaved to wine
  • To not be a malicious gossip
  • To teach what is good
  • To teach younger women
Titus 2:3-4
A younger woman is:

  • To be loving to her husband and children
  • To be discreet
  • To be pure
  • To be a keeper of the home
  • To be kind
  • To be subject to her husband
Titus 2:5

He then goes on to list a woman’s makeup:

Characterological Make-up Scripture Reference
She was made out of man 1 Corinthians 11:8
She was made for man 1 Corinthians 11:9
She was made after man 1 Timothy 2:13
She has a penchant to control her husband Genesis 3:16
She is more easily deceived 1 Timothy 2:14
She is to view herself as a bodily member and her husband as her head Ephesians 5:23

Whew, there’s a lot in the Scripture about you ladies!

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Our Modern Reality is Not All That Great

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Our Form of Government Is Not The Best

In Daniel 2, we read the vision that God sent to King Nebuchadnezzar.  In that dream, we find that God called all governments after this King as inferior– and we see that He had a point.  Whatever Nebuchadnezzar said was law of the land.  When Darius the Persian conquered Babylon, the laws of the Meades and the Persians prohibited the king from changing what was signed into law (remember Daniel and the Lion’s Den).

The prophecy said that each form of government, even democratic republics, were inferior to King Nebuchadnezzar’s form of government– which is also the type of government that Jesus will have during the Millennial reign.

Godly Wife: Are You Intimately Available?

March 6th, 2007 Viewed 7306 times

This is not an easy topic.  I’m sure you’re squirming reading this probably as much as I am writing this!  However, Paul has something to say here, and there is an important message to be heard.

1 Corinthians 7:3-5 spells our a husband’s and wife’s duty to one another physically stating:

Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.  The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.  Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

There’s a lot here to soak in.

It’s the duty of the husband and wife to meet each other’s needs.

There is no room here for argument.  The husband first and then the wife are commanded to meet the physical needs of each other.  And this isn’t just the physical needs of food and clothing, but the most intimate of needs.  You came together in a vow to love, honor and cherish for the purpose of glorifying God and becoming one.  That was becoming one spiritually, emotionally and physically.  I think that it’s easy for us to focus on the first couple and miss the fact that they are a package together.  A marriage that is strong will have all three components.

The husband and the wife are not to be selfish with their bodies.

Unfortunately, we as humans are quick to learn how to push each other’s buttons to get what we want.  I see it in my two boys.  The oldest (up to this point) knew exactly what to say to get the toy he wanted from the youngest.  The youngest has since gotten smarter, though.

In marriage, sexual intimacy– because of how much pleasure and unity is derived from it– is occasionally used as a weapon to get the desires of one of the parties.  I’m sorry to say this, but let’s be blunt– it’s usually not the guys that are holding out on this one.

Do you see the point Paul is making in this passage?  Your body is not your own.  Now, I’m not saying that it’s fine for abuse to occur.  I’m not even saying that it should be there every time it is petitioned.  What I am saying is that since your body is not your own, you should be looking for ways to use that body to build up, encourage and yes, even provide pleasure to your spouse.

Abstinence in marriage is not to be something that lasts for long periods of time because it leads to temptation.

Paul says it plainly.  There is only one Biblical reason that two married people should not have consistent physical unity.  It’s for prayer and fasting for both, and the two are to come together quickly so that temptation is not allowed to take hold.

Godly Wife, are you helping your husband resist temptation by showing him that he can count on being able to delight in your love?  The attitude that you take toward being physically intimate with your spouse is going to color everything.  If it’s a hassle, he’s going to feel it.

Let’s be honest.  We live in a society out there that wants to tempt your husband in all sorts of ways.  Our sex saturated culture is selling him the idea that sex is simply for fun, that there are many willing women out there that will gladly show him a good time, and they show up in all sorts of places.

You want your man to be faithful.  You want him to love you and want to come home to you and be there to protect you.  I’m sorry to say it this bluntly, but what are you giving him to come home to?  Is the thought of being with you physically something he knows that you’ll both enjoy, or is it a chore?  If it’s the latter, well…  do something about it!

Question Idea taken from Questions for a Godly Wife

Godly Husband: Are You a Leader?

November 27th, 2006 Viewed 6028 times

olderhusbandandwifeheader.jpgMen, are you the spiritual leader in your home?  I can hear the excuses now:

  • But she knows more scripture than I do!
  • Women are better at praying than men are.
  • I take the family to church, don’t I?
  • Did you say supper was on the table?

To Meet the Wife’s Needs/Wants

October 5th, 2006 Viewed 13490 times

One of the most radical statements (in terms of what people believe the Bible says in regards to husbands and wives) that I think I could make about the responsibility of the father in the home is that he is supposed to be meeting the wife’s needs.

Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. – 1 Corinthians 7:13

And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church. – 1 Corinthians 14:35

Physically, we are to be meeting her needs on every level. She has submitted to us in the leadership in the home, and she is trusting us to provide for her. This means that we must be willing to sacrifice our desires and wants at times so that she may have hers. That means that we need to seek her pleasure and happiness above our own. That is what she’s required to seek as well.

The passage that the first verse is taken from continues on to say that the wife’s body is not her own, neither the husband’s body his own. Guys, let’s be frank. I think far too often we like to use this verse to say that we deserve sex whenever the mood hits us (which is probably more often than it hits her!), but we fail to see the point of our bodies not being our own. Sure, we’re supposed to be physically intimate, but this passage could also be read to mean that we should be taking care of ourselves in a way that pleases her.

This could easily be taken to mean that we should make sure that we’re awake and willing to converse with her. This could mean that we should seek to dress, smell, and look a way that pleases her. It is, after all, what we use this passage to ask of her, right? I mean, we like to pick out flirty things for her to wear to please us (which she probably does) and yet do we do and wear things to please her? Our body is not our own, remember?

And then there’s the responsibility to meet our wife’s spiritual needs. If she’s supposed to come to us with questions that she’s not supposed to ask in church, we should certainly be in the Word so that we can have an answer! Not only that, but we, as the husband-leaders, should be looking at our family’s life and seeking to improve our spiritual walks. We should be leading the family in devotions. We should be looking for ways to apply scripture to our everyday conduct. We should be sharing with her the things that we learn from the Bible or questions that have come up.

I fear that we’re so concerned with ourselves and our rights in this area, men, that we are missing the blessing of being able to serve and love the wife God gave us. Oh, and if you think she loves, cares and does a lot for you now– how could she respond if you took your meeting of her needs/wants up a notch?


Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.