MInTheGap

Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.

Steps to Growth – Prioritization

June 8th, 2018 Viewed 33 times

What kind of priority do we see Christ emphasizing in the Scriptures? This has to be our goal if we’re going to fulfill the Biblical mandate.

A PRIORITY FOR EVERYONE

To quote the Great Commission of Matthew 28, while you are going, make disciples. This was the command of every single disciple and apostle of Christ. It was not given to just certain disciples under certain circumstances, and it is not a call to share the gospel with strangers and end it there. The command would be more clearly written, “As you are going, preach the gospel, baptize them, and then teach them to observe or obey the truths that you have been taught.” It is a call for discipleship, and it is incumbent on everyone to be doing it.

While God has given us pastors, teachers, evangelists, etc. to teach believers the work of the ministry, it is implied that all believers would be performing this work. 1 Corinthians 12 talks about one body, many members, but that mean that some members are to be sharing the Gospel and others are to be discipling, for these things are commanded to all disciples.

In this truth is both something we need to confess, and the secret of our strength. I would posit that only a small percentage of the believers at First Baptist are actively sharing the Gospel and Discipling. I would guess that the number of those doing discipling is greater than sharing the Gospel, but even this I would suggest is not 100% or still would have room for growth.

It is therefore imperative for us to help believers to know where they are in terms of this Scriptural command and to be able to take the next steps in faith to move from where they are to a closer communion with God by fulfilling the command to tell the Good News and make disciples where they are.

photo by: jessdone8

The Proper Role of Intimacy – Delight in Your Own Spouse, Be Attractive To One Another

May 14th, 2018 Viewed 215 times, 1 so far today

Why is the Wife Compared to a Cistern or a Fountain? (Prov 5:18; Song 4:15)

In a land that had not a lot of water, she would be something of tremendous value.

What is the Significance of One’s Own Cistern?

How many people would love to have pure water that was not someone else’s? This is the value of the wife, as something that nourishes the husband. The point is that there is a source of “water” for the husband, and that is where he should be seeking it. If he is looking for it elsewhere, or his wife ends up offering it elsewhere, it’s a shame to him.

What are the fountains or rivers of water? (Prov 5:16-17)

These are the children which are brought forth from the act of marriage. These are legitimate children, whom the husband can know are his because he has been faithful.

What is the Significance of the Fountain being blessed and Joy from Wife of Your Youth? (Prov 5:18)

A woman that would have the children of her husband was blessed. We can see this in the stories of Abraham and Sarah, Jacob and Rachel, Elkanah and Hannah. In each of these cases, the women felt that they were deficient because they did not bear offspring, and when they did then they felt worth.

The idea of “wife of his youth” has more than just “marry a young wife” embedded in it. It also refers to the fact that when you married you did marry young, and had a lifetime of intimacy together. This would mean that you’d have a tight bond—in contrast to the adulterous couple in other passages.

On Whom Should the Husband Fix His Affections and What Should Satisfy Him? (Prov. 5:19)

His affections should be affixed on his wife. The allusions would make more sense in the Eastern world at the time, but these were very high compliments. The idea is that his wife is the most attractive woman that he knows, and that he is not seeking out anyone else.

The problem here is that often in marriage, both men and women can let themselves go instead of continually seeking to be attractive to their spouse. They can use the excuse that they “have to love me anyway” to mean that they will not put any effort into their appearance. I don’t get that from this passage as much as I get that the husband should not be looking to be attracted elsewhere, for he should get all he needs sexually and visually from his wife.

This falls into the idea that the husband should be intoxicated with the love of his wife. He should have eyes only for her, and her love should be something that draws him to her. Attraction is powerful.

photo by: rightee

Two-Parent Families

June 11th, 2015 Viewed 776 times

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David Leonhardt has an interactive map up showing the percentages by state of two-parent families:

When it comes to family arrangements, the United States has a North-South divide. Children growing up across much of the northern part of the country are much more likely to grow up with two parents than children across the South.

It’s not just a red-blue political divide, either. There is a kind of two-parent arc that starts in the West in Utah, runs up through the Dakotas and Minnesota and then down into New England and New Jersey. It encompasses both the conservative Mountain West and the liberal Northeast.

Single-parent families, by contrast, are most common in a Southern arc beginning in Nevada, and extending through New Mexico, Oklahoma and the Deep South before coming up through Appalachia into West Virginia.

[read more: The North-South Divide on Two-Parent Families, hat tip: Ann Althouse]

What Is Your Parenting Focused Upon?

June 8th, 2015 Viewed 770 times

windowslivewriterthepointisweareourchildrensparents-bdc8kidslisteningtomusic4.jpgJess Connell focuses on us parents like a laser in her post Is Your Parenting Focused on the wrong things?

Rather, I fear that too many moms of our generation “major” on these controversial, blood-pressure-raising, attention-getting second- or third-tier issues, while missing the basics:
  • character development
  • obedience
  • the day-in-day-out business of RAISING ENJOYABLE, CHEERFUL, KIND CHILDREN who are growing in their understanding of God and the world He has made.

Moms who fall into this trap are focused on the side-issues but missing the major things.

This applies to dads as well.  How invested are we in raising the next generation of God worshipers instead of living for self?  We need to be very careful with the lives that are entrusted to us– one dad tried to shame his daughter and ended up losing her.  Obviously this is not the way to parent.

How Do You Teach Your Children about Money?

April 1st, 2015 Viewed 895 times
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School children at Mitchells Plain school. They draw learners from Khayelitsha and Philippi as well. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I was reading Educating Your Children about Money and it had an interesting timeline to follow where it show different ages at which children can process different monetary concepts.  To me, this is a great idea to get them involved as early as possible since I did not really have that kind of education as I was growing up.

One of the things that I have tried to do over the years is to give each of my children an allowance that amounts to how many years that they have been alive.  This echoes the idea of getting a salary instead of paying for chores.  I find that paying for chores doesn’t really work for us, because not only can they opt not to do the chores (which is not conducive to family harmony!), but the book work can be harder to manage.  The way I’m currently doing it, they get paid when I get paid.

If A Child’s Door is Closed, Do You Knock or Just Go On In?

November 16th, 2012 Viewed 1394 times

Father and children on a walkFor the most part, I admit that I usually go right on in—surprising them.  So, why should I find it annoying that they do the same to me?

In the article Establishing Guidelines for Privacy with your Children, Maria Doll suggests that we should always knock:

Always knock – model this polite behavior to your child.  Knock and ask to come in before entering your child’s room.  Insist that this be done to your room, also.  Explain that a closed door means someone wants privacy.  Knocking is the correct way to interrupt.

I would say that you have to make sure that they understand that, because it’s your house, you have the right to access to their rooms, whereas they don’t have the right to access yours, but what’s your take?

Is a room personal space that a child has the right to say it is off limits?  What about the other suggestions from her site?


Image from Stock Exchange used under the Standard Restrictions explained at the link.

The Solution to The Public School Problem

July 1st, 2010 Viewed 1905 times

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Anyone can take a shot at the public school system.  They take in tons of money, have multiple layers of bureaucracy, they pass people that cannot read or write, and then they say the solution is more money.  It’s the definition of insanity1.


  1. Insanity (n): Doing something over and over again expecting a different result []

Loss of Innocence

July 24th, 2009 Viewed 2019 times

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It used to be that some things were left private.  Discussed between parents and children at appropriate times, children were allowed to be children for as long as possible.

Today, however, we have a culture that exposed to and trained in private things long before they have ever been taught before.  I believe that sexual education and our sex saturated society go hand in hand to create monsters at younger ages.

Funny How They Get It

June 26th, 2009 Viewed 2673 times

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A group of six dozen paleontologists recently paid a trip to the Creation Museum in Petersburg, Kentucky to see what they presented.

Palin’s Biggest Asset and Biggest Weakness

September 3rd, 2008 Viewed 2227 times

McCain chooses Sarah Palin as Vice President pick at a rally in Dayton Ohio on August 29, 2008Gov. Palin’s biggest asset is that she’s a real person.  Not that I believe the other candidates are space aliens, but she is the first person on either ticket that’s not a Senator, does not have money in their background, and oh yeah, she’s a girl.

As the Politico reports, even some of the new revelations about what is going on her family may end up helping her, rather than hurting her.

Why?

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Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.