MInTheGap

Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.

Compassion, The Bible and the Pro-Life Movement

June 9th, 2015 Viewed 879 times

pregnant-mom-stress.jpgOver the weekend, Jill Stanek asked a question in her post Stanek weekend Q: How to respond to assertion abortion isn’t in the Bible?:

How do you respond to Knox and others like him who say that since abortion isn’t specifically mentioned in the Bible as a sin, it is not only not a sin but a deed to be supported as an act of faith?

From the beginning of the Bible, children have been called a blessing.  Adam and Eve and Noah and his family were all commanded to be fruitful and multiply.  Barren womb were saddened and begged God for children (when they weren’t giving their handmaidens to their husband in an attempt to get children that way– which God does not command and violates monogamy).  God commanded that someone that attacks a pregnant woman such that a baby dies owes the family for the loss.  The Old Testament writers talked about how God knit them together in their mother’s wombs, and often before birth mothers were told about the greatness of the exploits of their unborn children.

Indeed, when talking about the unborn and about children, God is anything but pro-choice.

Godly Wife: Have You Cut the Cord?

April 17th, 2007 Viewed 7204 times

There’s a really good reason that God said what He did in Genesis 2:23-24.

And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.  Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Because the two had become one, it was important for the new unit to leave the previous parent/child relationship in order to strengthen the bond with the new husband/wife relationship.

No doubt we’ve all heard our share of mother-in-law jokes.  The reason that these abound, however, is that we all know interfering parents– not our parents or in-laws, just others.  The fact of the matter is, our parents have a long relationship with us, one that is build over a long period of time.  They know very little about our spouse.  Therefore, they will tend to side with their own child and against the new spouse if asked to choose sides.

The question is, Godly Wife, do you give your parents the opportunity to criticize your husband?  Do you point out his weak points to them, or are you united with him?  They say, in politics, that the arguments between parties end at the borders (though that doesn’t seem to be the case as much now).  Does any disagreement you have with your husband find its way out of your house and to your parents?

Who do you go to for advice or information?  Does your parents know more about how you’re feeling or thinking than your spouse?  Is he kept in the loop?

Issues of marriage are best kept between husband, wife and the Lord.  I’m not saying that if there’s a sin issue there that you shouldn’t seek counseling from a pastor or parent, but what I am saying is that you need to make sure that your husband is the person that you look to for love and direction, not your mom and dad.

Question Idea taken from Questions for a Godly Wife

Godly Wife: Do You Dominate Your Husband?

April 10th, 2007 Viewed 24941 times

I find it interesting to note what happened in the Garden of Eden after man had sinned.  You see, each of the people there involved (if you call the serpent a person) was punished in a given area.

  • To the Serpent: Crawl on your belly, eat dust, bite the heel of the Seed of the Woman, but have its head crushed.
  • To Adam: The ground would be cursed, and he would die.
  • To Eve: Pain in child birth and the husband would rule over her.

That God put this in place at this point in time says to me that this was not the case in the Garden.  I think we gain a further insight into the Garden relationship by looking at how Eve got Adam to sin– something Adam knew he shouldn’t do.

We could get into the fascinating discussion of why Adam ate, but the point was that Eve and Adam had an equal relationship– something that wouldn’t be possible with a sin nature.  So, God did what needed to be done– He selected someone to be the leader of the couple, and did so by His divine will.

The problem is, sin likes to promote self.  In the case of Eve and every woman after her, it is not in human nature to be pleased with having someone over us, and for “no apparent reason.”  If you add up human nature and the current state of feminism you see that rather than being homes that are set up as God ordained in Genesis, we have homes that are set up the exact opposite, with women dominating their husbands or exacting concessions out of him for they very benefit of being in the wife’s presence or bed.

Since we know from the Word of God that women have a weakness for domination, are you as a wife on guard that you do not dominate your husband?  This is something that requires a lot of work and attention for it’s easy to fall into the trap.

I would lump in here the propensity to equate your husband with one of the children– someone that you can order around and treat diminutively simply because you’re better at manipulation, emotions, or whatever it is that you know about him and how to push his buttons.

God commands wives to be above that.  That’s why He said that if you’re married to an unsaved spouse you don’t win him by forcing, belittling, or shaming him into going to church– you do it with a Christlike testimony and a meek and humble spirit.  Win them with kindness and you’re doing what God wants for you!

Question Idea taken from Questions for a Godly Wife

Godly Wife: How Do You Handle When He is Wrong?

December 18th, 2006 Viewed 4764 times

I think that one of the hardest things for a guy to do– no matter who the guy is– is to admit that they are wrong. In fact, I believe that an inordinate amount of time is spent by guys trying to shift blame away from someone else.

To put it simply, we don’t like it when we’re wrong. But how you, Godly Wife, handle when we are wrong can make us admitting it even harder.

It is this principle that I have been thinking deeply about for the past few weeks in regards to some things that are going on in my church. Loving submission requires that we not just accept the position of the one that is the leader, but that we follow it even if we disagree, and if it fails we do not say “I told you so.”

There is a time to point out that a given thing is wrong or that your husband is mistaken, but you must take the time to try to win him, rather than winning the argument or holding over his head the mistake as a claim to superiority.

You see, our families are based on a God-ordained plan. One thing that guys are usually not are transparent. The way that you handle when he is wrong effects him more than you believe– since he loves you and is trying to provide for you. It goes hand in hand with the trust that he places in you.

Tearing down the leadership in your home will have a negative effect on not only your husband, but on your children and yourself.

But it goes further than just what you say and how you say it. How do you think about your husband when he is wrong? Do you allow his failures to let you think about him as evil, stupid, or as someone who just made the wrong decision?

It is paramount that you view him as that dear friend that you married– one that you want to succeed. It’s important that instead of thinking about him as the one that doesn’t make right calls “all the time” as someone that needs your strength and wisdom in certain areas– seasoned with kindness.

Let me emphasize– you must not be building a case against him in your heart and devise strategies to defeat him, but must be looking for ways to pursue love and be nurturing to him.

These things are not conditional to whether he returns your love– they are to be done despite his sins and failures. Godly Wife, you are to be without blame in your reactions to Him so that you may glorify your father in Heaven.

Question Idea taken from Questions for a Godly Wife

Godly Wife: Is He Your Master?

November 21st, 2006 Viewed 10647 times

I told you this would be hard. In I Peter 3:5-6 Peter commends Sarah as being a holy woman by saying that she obeyed Abraham by calling him lord.

We’ve come a long way from this. It used to be that part of the vows that a wife took were to obey her husband. Now it’s a joke that they do not. Whether it’s feminism or just the fact that we have been trained to think of the partners as equals, this statement and the idea of there being a division and hierarchy in the family is gradually being replaced, even in Christian circles, by equality and emphasis on the women.

Here are the musings of ckhnat on this issue:

Sarah called Abraham “lord” (sometimes translated “master”). Should wives today follow Sarah’s example in calling their husbands “lord”? What does this title mean to a woman? For Sarah, it was a sign of her submission. To comply to her husband’s wishes, to please her mate, to encourage him, to yield to his preferences–some modern women might be willing to sign their names on the dotted line to the above. However, to call him “lord”?

Now, I’m not suggesting that husbands should force their wives to not address them by their first names, to call them only “master” or “lord”, but what I do think is appropriate for discussion here is what her saying the term meant and how it should be applied today.

Obviously the term connotes submission– to the Lord and to her lord. It showed what was stated in Genesis about the woman’s desire being toward the man was there. It was part of what was necessary after the fall, and for families to function.

Ladies, if you lump your husband in with your children as far as telling him what to do and when to do it– you’re not treating him with the respect God told you to have for him. You need to respect him, love him, build him up. He can be the person you expect him to be, but he doesn’t get that way by being belittled.

If you want your man to be a man, he can get that way by being encouraged when he makes decisions, by knowing that you stand with him, by hearing that you trust him, and by following his lead– regardless if you know better, and without hearing “I told you so.”

God Told Adam…

October 1st, 2006 Viewed 5733 times

I was talking a couple of weekends ago with a friend, and the discussion turned to Creation, the Fall, and other related issues and it caused me to think more about just how much responsibility God gave to man and just why Paul laid so much at the father’s feet in a family. I’d like to take this opportunity to look through some Bible passages with you and see just what fathers and husbands have to be responsible for. Just so you know how we’ll go about this study, I’m going to do searches for fathers and husbands in the Bible and then address passages that talk about a father’s or husband’s responsibility.

I do want to start out with the one that got me going, just to get you thinking.

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