MInTheGap

Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.

Marriage and the Book of Ezra

December 7th, 2016 Viewed 1001 times

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There are difficult passages in the Bible– ones that, on the surface, don’t seem to square with ones we find in other places.  One of these passages is in the book of Ezra.  In Ezra 10, Ezra the priest has read the law that he found in the temple and has come across a problem– the exiles from Israel had transgressed the law of God in regards to marrying foreign women.  God wanted Israel to stay pure and only to marry other Israelites.  Some of the captives even had children with these foreign women.  What to do?

Ezra and the priests decide that all those who had married foreign wives must put them away, or divorce them.  If they had children, they should be put away as well.  This would be an arduous task, and they expected it to take some time to be pure again.

Are You Doing Too Much or Too Little For Your Spouse?

November 19th, 2015 Viewed 1017 times, 2 so far today

In How Doing Less For Your Wife Can Make Your Marriage Better, husbands are first encouraged to meet a “Biblical” standard of provision for one’s wife:

Gentlemen – we as husbands are required to provide food, clothing and shelter to our wives. We are required to give them regular sexual relations. We are required to spend time with them, talk to them, know their needs and concerns and give them proper honor as our wife. This is the Biblical definition of what it means for a man to unconditionally love his wife.

This is a tall order and each of us as men fail in this duty from time to time. I think as men often times we can be great at providing our wives with food, clothing, shelter and sex but we fail in the areas of honoring her and knowing her. We can become too wrapped up in our jobs and hobbies to the point where we never talk to our wives.

If you are failing to spend time with or talk to your wife then you are not a husband that needs to do less, but instead you need to do MORE.

From there the author goes into discussing when it’s appropriate to do less.  Do you think most husbands do more or less than they should?

If You Had to Provide a Sketch of Your Spouse to a Sketch Artist, Would They Get It Right?

July 23rd, 2015 Viewed 1051 times, 2 so far today

 


Multiple couples sat down with a sketch artist and produced a video where the spouse describes the other one, and hilarity ensues— not sure whether to doubt sketch artists or the spouse?

Does Sex Need to Be Taught?

July 23rd, 2015 Viewed 1138 times, 1 so far today

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Are Wives to Blame if Husbands are Unfaithful?

July 23rd, 2015 Viewed 1032 times, 2 so far today

 

In the wake of the hack on the adultery seeking website with a famous name, many are talking about cheating– the last taboo in a land that seeks all sorts of sexual deviancy proclaimed as acceptable.  And one adulteress tries to make the case that she actually has helped marriages!

It reminds me of many passages in the book of Proverbs that talk about how serious adultery is.  Nothing good comes from adultery, from being unfaithful, and from not following after the wife of your youth.

Why Is a Couple That Chooses to Be Abstinent Surprising?

July 8th, 2015 Viewed 593 times, 2 so far today

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In the last month saw the creation of a “marriage” between two people of the same sex, a Olympic medalist announce to the world that he is now a she, and revelations that Bristol Palin is expecting again and that contestants on the Bachelorette show have intimate relations not just before marriage, but also before they are “supposed to” in terms of what’s planned on the show.

So you know what’s really bothering people now?  That a celebrity couple would dare stay abstinent until marriage:

Seattle Seahawks quarterback Russell Wilson is getting candid about his relationship with Ciara.

In a sit-down with Pastor Miles McPherson of The Rock Church in San Diego, Wilson opened up about his life, his beliefs, and taking sex with his girlfriend off the table.

"I met this girl named Ciara, who is the most beautiful woman in the world," he gushed. "She’s the most kind person, the most engaging person."

How Often Do You Get Away?

June 23rd, 2015 Viewed 953 times, 2 so far today

Dream Vacation by Sreejith KThe Generous Husband is big on getting away as a couple:

Vacations … give us a chance to have fun together, and this is exceptionally important to our marriages. Shared experiences bond us together, and give us good memories to share for the rest of our lives. On a smaller scale, we need date nights, Saturday hikes, and the like for the same reasons.  –  How Often Does Your Marriage Need Time Away?

He goes on to describe how often he thinks couples should get away, starting with at least one date night every two weeks and on from there.

5 Reasons Reality Dating Shows are Bad for the Institution of Marriage

June 17th, 2015 Viewed 867 times, 1 so far today

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Reality shows are anything but reality, and while much can be said about how they are also engineered to get the most views for advertisers, the real danger is what they are doing to our culture as far as our sacred institutions.  The biggest impact is on the institution of marriage—for what better drama is there to see than that which is played out between dating, courtship and marriage.

1. They Trivialize Commitment

Whether it is the Bachelor, Bachelorette, Married at First Sight, or Joe Millionaire, they all have one foundational flaw—they trivialize marriage.  They do this by using a sacred bond as something to sell advertisements.  To do this, they have to provide something people want to see—and most people want to see things that go wrong.

Strengthening Your Marriage

June 9th, 2015 Viewed 740 times, 2 so far today

wedding-colection.jpgWhat are you doing today to strengthen your marriage?  Marriage is not something that you can take for granted.  Even though we believe that wedding vows are important and should be the glue that binds people together, just like any other thing that is in this world, marriages change as time passes.

The Time Warp Wife gives us 3 Things You Can Do, Right Now, To Strengthen Your Marriage. All three of these are spot on; however, I think that the best thing that you can do to strengthen your marriage has to be about your inner heart attitude towards your spouse.  Obviously God has to have highest priority in your life, but next to that, does your spouse have a high priority?

Surprise Your Spouse

June 8th, 2015 Viewed 870 times, 2 so far today

Kissing-the-Wife.jpgEngaged Marriage has a list of 12 Romantic Surprises to Make Your Spouse Smile.  The one that I found the most interesting was:

7. Play one of these games and don’t tell them the new rules until the game begins:  Clue, Scrabble, Putt-Putt

There are some really good ones there, so if you’re looking to put a little surprise in your relationship, head on over and check them out!

MInTheGap

Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.