MInTheGap

Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.

The Women of Proverbs – The Seductress, The Nag, and the Wife of His Youth

April 23rd, 2018 Viewed 95 times, 4 so far today

What are the characteristics of the Adulteress? (Proverbs 2:16-19; Proverbs 5:3-14; Proverbs 6:20-35; Proverbs 7:1-27; Proverbs 23:27-28; Proverbs 30:20)

She has forsaken her husband and her God. Her speech and ways are pleasing but she is really bitter and cutting. This adulteress leads men astray, to a place where he can never return. She is often beautiful and appealing to the eye. She is loud, and not where she is supposed to be (in her own house). She easily seduces a man. She approaches him with a kiss, and has prepared for their encounter. She is unfaithful to him. Following after her results in destruction of reputation, loss of wealth, and eventually to death. Solomon says that it would be better to get with a prostitute than to get with another man’s wife. The fact that there are six passages here again underscores the difference between adultery and other sexual sins.

Old Testament Husbands – Isaac, Jacob, Hosea

April 16th, 2018 Viewed 76 times

What was the main problem with Jacob and Esau? (Gen 27:1ff)

Other than the fact that God had chosen one?  Each of the parents had chosen favorites, and there was no secret that the father preferred the older.  This is a problem that would manifest itself in the next generation, as Jacob would also consider Joseph his favorite.

What should a young man be willing to do for the woman that he loves? (Gen 29)

Jacob was willing to work for Laban for seven years, and then another seven years for Rachel.  While I’m not advocating working for fourteen years to earn the right to marry a woman, the commitment needs to be secure before entering marriage.  This follows through with the bride price, etc.  A woman is valuable—she completes a man, she is his helper, and therefore entering into a marriage covenant should not be taken lightly or simply because of feelings.

Was it wrong for Jacob to give Joseph a special coat? (Gen 37)

Old Testament Wives – Ruth, Abigail and Esther

April 2nd, 2018 Viewed 159 times, 1 so far today

What quality of Ruth’s is God’s focus?

Ruth is humble throughout—she stayed with Naomi, she was willing to glean food with the poor, she humbled herself in front of Boaz (looking for his direction), and was blessed because of it.  Ruth showed humility, something she didn’t need to do.  She could have stayed in Moab, she could have complained with the harsh loss of her husband and status.  She didn’t do any of this, and as such she’s in the line of David.

Ruth is one of the few discussions of Leverite marriage in that Boaz was a kinsman redeemer to her. This story plays out God’s love for us– an outsider that is chosen to marry someone with much. She is held up as an example of a godly young lady.

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Education and Authority – Marriage from the Israelite Law – Part 2

March 26th, 2018 Viewed 235 times, 1 so far today

Why is wife listed among the possessions not to covet?

“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male servant, or his female servant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor’s.” – Exodus 20:17

The term husband actually carries multiple meanings in the Hebrew and Greek.  According to Strongs, the word “husband” has the following possible definitions:

husband, Lord, lord, lord’s, lords, master, master’s, masters, owner.

We covered this with Abraham and Sarah.  She belongs to him because she is one flesh with him. In the last post, marriage was shown to be, in Bible times, partly a financial transaction. The husband paid the bride price to wife’s family in exchange for her. This means that he had paid a financial price and had a financial obligation to her, but it would be wrong to infer that this is an indication of status as an object. While she is listed with the possessions, you can also interpret this to mean “you shouldn’t covet anything that is your neighbor’s,” just like when you are introduced you say “this is my husband” or “this is my wife.” While she may be in an inferior or subordinate position, she is not a possession.

You could easily reword this into the positive by saying, be content or grateful with what you have instead of wanting what someone else has or the common phrase, “the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” which implies the same.

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By the Book – Marriage from the Israelite Law – Part 1

March 18th, 2018 Viewed 156 times, 1 so far today

In order to understand marriage from a Biblical sense, you need to set aside your current understanding of modern marriage and start to explore what the Bible says about men and women and marriage– what does it say in the law, and how were these things done back then.

What was the status of a single woman?

“Ask me for as great a bride-price and gift as you will, and I will give whatever you say to me. Only give me the young woman to be my wife.” – Genesis 34:12

If a man seduces a virgin who is not betrothed and lies with her, he shall give the bride-price for her and make her his wife.
– Exodus 22:16

The unmarried woman was considered to be a virgin, and she lived in her father’s house under his protection until such time as a man came and sought her out to be his bride. This could be for any number of reasons. Samson saw a woman and was physically attracted to her and requested that his father get her to make her his bride. Jacob fell for the beauty of Rachel and worked 14 years for her (again, a price for her). Abraham sent out his servant with money and possessions to procure Rebekah for Isaac. Throughout the Old Testament, the arrangement of marriage was more a financial transaction than one where compatibility was sought.

The unmarried woman, living in her father’s house, was transferred into her husband’s jurisdiction by his payment of the ‘bride price’ (Heb. mohar) to her father. If a man seduced a girl, he had to pay the bride price as a penalty and make her his legal wife.

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101 Ways to Show Love and Respect

March 12th, 2018 Viewed 211 times

Whether you’re a husband, wife, or have someone you love, I’ve taken the time to show you that you can show those around you that you love and care for them.

To husbands, there’s 101 Ways to Show Love To Your Wife.

To wives, there’s 101 Ways to Show Respect To Your Husband.

To those in love, 101 Ways To Say “I Love You” Without Saying It.

These are hardly exhaustive lists, and taken by themselves could be seen as controversial when they’re not intended to be. Anyone in a relationship for a period of time can find themselves wanting ideas to keep their love alive or fresh, and sometimes we all need some encouragement.

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A New Beginning – The Story of Abraham and Sarah

March 11th, 2018 Viewed 276 times, 1 so far today

Abraham has his wife lie, and yet they are blessed.

Genesis 12:15 – And when the princes of Pharaoh saw her, they praised her to Pharaoh. And the woman was taken into Pharaoh’s house. 16 And for her sake he dealt well with Abram; and he had sheep, oxen, male donkeys, male servants, female servants, female donkeys, and camels. 17 But the Lord afflicted Pharaoh and his house with great plagues because of Sarai, Abram’s wife. 18 So Pharaoh called Abram and said, “What is this you have done to me? Why did you not tell me that she was your wife? 19 Why did you say, ‘She is my sister,’ so that I took her for my wife? Now then, here is your wife; take her, and go.” 20 And Pharaoh gave men orders concerning him, and they sent him away with his wife and all that he had.

Here we have a problem for Abraham: He is a man with an attractive wife and he believes that the men of the land, being less civilized than himself or where he has come from, will kill him in order to get her. She must have been quite attractive! In order to avoid death, Abraham convinces his half-sister to say that she is only his sister, and in that way he will be spared. What should Sarai do?

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101 Ways to Show Respect To Your Husband

March 9th, 2018 Viewed 616 times, 1 so far today

With His Job

It’s important to realize here that what a man does is a part of who he is.  This is part of the reason that the first thing one man will probably ask the other is “what do you do?”  I think that a lot of wives lose out on connections that they can make with their husbands because they want to separate him from his work– and yet that work is what he does for most of his day.

  1. Let him know how much you appreciate the work that he does.
  2. Get to know the names of people that he works with and their positions.
  3. Find out if it would be appropriate to invite a coworker over.
  4. If his company has a get together, don’t try to get out of it.
  5. Learn something about his profession– so that you’re at least conversant.
  6. Just like you’d like him to ask you about your day, ask him about his.
  7. Find out what he wants to do with his life.
  8. Encourage him to press on from where he is in job growth.
  9. Go on a work related trip with him.
  10. Prepare a snack just for him and his coworkers (the people in his office will look up to him!)
  11. Budget/Plan for lunches with coworkers– understand the need to network.
  12. Send him thoughtful or playful texts while he’s at work.
  13. Include a note of praise in his lunch (if he brings one).
  14. See him off in the morning.
  15. Welcome him home from the day.

We Are One – The Story of Adam and Eve

February 12th, 2018 Viewed 349 times

We are One

The Story of Adam and Eve – Genesis 1-3

In this passage we are taking a look at the first marriage—the first couple as it were.  From this study we should gain a crucial insight into what marriage was like when the people involved were sinless, and how that has changed because the introduction of sin.

Describe the creation of Adam and Eve.

Adam was created from the dust of the ground, like the animals.  However, he is the only one that is said to have had breathed into his nostrils the breath of life—he is a distinct creation.  Eve is the only person that is said to have been created not from the dust of the ground, but from Adam’s side.

What was the reason for the creation of Eve?

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Marriage and the Book of Ezra

December 7th, 2016 Viewed 1600 times, 2 so far today

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There are difficult passages in the Bible– ones that, on the surface, don’t seem to square with ones we find in other places.  One of these passages is in the book of Ezra.  In Ezra 10, Ezra the priest has read the law that he found in the temple and has come across a problem– the exiles from Israel had transgressed the law of God in regards to marrying foreign women.  God wanted Israel to stay pure and only to marry other Israelites.  Some of the captives even had children with these foreign women.  What to do?

Ezra and the priests decide that all those who had married foreign wives must put them away, or divorce them.  If they had children, they should be put away as well.  This would be an arduous task, and they expected it to take some time to be pure again.

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Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.