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Living In Love

This summer, my wife and I celebrated our tenth wedding anniversary.  It seems hard to believe that it was ten years ago that we were standing in her home church exchanging vows and that the time would fly by this fast! Ten years and four kids later (fifth on the way!), it seemed like a [...]

National Single and Unmarried Americans Week

Did you know that it is the National Single and Unmarried American’s Week?  Neither did I until I learned it from the New York Times!  They believe that it’s a shame that we push people into marriage.  Personal experience tells me that people in general don’t seem to have that problem. The value of marriage [...]

What Role Does Weight Play In Marriage?

In the Country Song, Hot Mama, Trace Adkins confronts something all marriage relationships go through: You’re doin’ all you can to get in them old jeans. You want that body back, you had at seventeen. Baby, don’t get down; don’t worry ’bout a thing. ‘Cause the way you fill ‘em out, hey, that’s all right [...]

Identity Crisis

Why do we expect men and women to be the same?  They aren’t.  I know, that statement may surprise some of you, but hear me out. Ever since the mid 1900’s, what we’ve expected of women has changed.  She was no longer allowed to think that her life was complete by simply being a woman [...]

Maybe Mom Really Does Want To Stay Home

The feminist movement of the past few decades has made a crusade of trying to make the sexes equal in every way—telling women that they could have it all.  They advocate having high power jobs, breaking the glass ceiling, and making as much money as the men around them. But what if those women don’t [...]

Courting: The Only Way To Find a Mate

On November 19, Katy Case entered into a courtship relationship with a young man, with the intent that she would marry him.  I’m very excited for her, in that she has left one stage of life and is preparing to walk into another. I believe that part of the way to fix the current erosion [...]

Delayed Kindness

Part of the problem today with marriage is that it is being devalued by a umber of things, not the least of which is the idea that a couple can get together without being married and have all the “benefits” of marriage. While purity is something that should be pursued by both people in a [...]

Catch Me If You Can

Many laws that were passed some time ago are now under scrutiny as relics of a bygone era—a time when people agreed on moral principles that are now up for grabs.  Laws that enforced clean language, the sale of liquor and protected a spouse from adultery have all been challenged, and when a story of [...]

Romancing Your Wife

Last week I started a new series for those of you that would like ideas about things you could do for your wife—things that go beyond getting her flowers or chocolate on the way home from work. These things will take time, money, and maybe even a bit of planning.  They could be done as [...]

The Wedding and After

Passion is at its most pure when it’s unleashed after remaining pure.  Your love, totally give to another, is one of the strongest bonds in the world.  That’s one of the reasons that your purity is so valuable, and something that should be taken care of so well. Your purity is something that makes you [...]

Guard Your Eyes and Your Heart

We talked last time about the power that is now wielded by the Seductress not only through her physical presence, but now through photography and video.  The power of this medium is not to be trivialized. Pornography has destroyed marriages, it has encouraged all sorts of perversion, and it has taken ministries away from individuals. [...]

She is a Cheap Imitation

Much could be said about the bond that should be present between a husband and wife.  That bond is reflective of the bond between Christ and the Church, a bond that is supposed to last until death, and that is unconditional. Part of that bond is enjoying all that each other has to offer.  Each [...]

Rejoice in Your Own Wife

Imagery is used quite often in the Bible to make a point.  A lot of what Christ said to His followers were in the form of parables1.  So it shouldn’t surprise us to find an analogy in the Proverbs that compares people to things. Wisdom is often personified as a woman, and very often we [...]

Her End is Death and the Dead

The End of the Seductress is death. For her house leads down to death, And her paths to the dead; None who go to her return, Nor do they regain the paths of life– Proverbs 2:18-19 The first part of this verse talks about her house—and where going to her house leads.  In order to [...]

Breaks A Covenant With God

The concept of a promise comes into place for two reasons: People often fail to keep their word. People want to know that you really mean what you say. When a couple gets married, they’re traditionally making a series of really important promises.  They are first, and foremost, promising one another their love and devotion [...]

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