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By the Book – Marriage from the Israelite Law – Part 1

March 18th, 2018 Viewed 32 times, 2 so far today
This entry is part 3 of 3 in the series Biblical Marriage

In order to understand marriage from a Biblical sense, you need to set aside your current understanding of modern marriage and start to explore what the Bible says about men and women and marriage– what does it say in the law, and how were these things done back then.

What was the status of a single woman?

“Ask me for as great a bride-price and gift as you will, and I will give whatever you say to me. Only give me the young woman to be my wife.” – Genesis 34:12

If a man seduces a virgin who is not betrothed and lies with her, he shall give the bride-price for her and make her his wife.
– Exodus 22:16

The unmarried woman was considered to be a virgin, and she lived in her father’s house under his protection until such time as a man came and sought her out to be his bride. This could be for any number of reasons. Samson saw a woman and was physically attracted to her and requested that his father get her to make her his bride. Jacob fell for the beauty of Rachel and worked 14 years for her (again, a price for her). Abraham sent out his servant with money and possessions to procure Rebekah for Isaac. Throughout the Old Testament, the arrangement of marriage was more a financial transaction than one where compatibility was sought.

The unmarried woman, living in her father’s house, was transferred into her husband’s jurisdiction by his payment of the ‘bride price’ (Heb. mohar) to her father. If a man seduced a girl, he had to pay the bride price as a penalty and make her his legal wife.

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101 Ways to Show Love and Respect

March 12th, 2018 Viewed 104 times, 1 so far today

Whether you’re a husband, wife, or have someone you love, I’ve taken the time to show you that you can show those around you that you love and care for them.

To husbands, there’s 101 Ways to Show Love To Your Wife.

To wives, there’s 101 Ways to Show Respect To Your Husband.

To those in love, 101 Ways To Say “I Love You” Without Saying It.

These are hardly exhaustive lists, and taken by themselves could be seen as controversial when they’re not intended to be. Anyone in a relationship for a period of time can find themselves wanting ideas to keep their love alive or fresh, and sometimes we all need some encouragement.

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A New Beginning – The Story of Abraham and Sarah

March 11th, 2018 Viewed 104 times, 1 so far today
This entry is part of 3 in the series Biblical Marriage

Abraham has his wife lie, and yet they are blessed.

Genesis 12:15 – And when the princes of Pharaoh saw her, they praised her to Pharaoh. And the woman was taken into Pharaoh’s house. 16 And for her sake he dealt well with Abram; and he had sheep, oxen, male donkeys, male servants, female servants, female donkeys, and camels. 17 But the Lord afflicted Pharaoh and his house with great plagues because of Sarai, Abram’s wife. 18 So Pharaoh called Abram and said, “What is this you have done to me? Why did you not tell me that she was your wife? 19 Why did you say, ‘She is my sister,’ so that I took her for my wife? Now then, here is your wife; take her, and go.” 20 And Pharaoh gave men orders concerning him, and they sent him away with his wife and all that he had.

Here we have a problem for Abraham: He is a man with an attractive wife and he believes that the men of the land, being less civilized than himself or where he has come from, will kill him in order to get her. She must have been quite attractive! In order to avoid death, Abraham convinces his half-sister to say that she is only his sister, and in that way he will be spared. What should Sarai do?

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101 Ways to Show Respect To Your Husband

March 9th, 2018 Viewed 394 times, 1 so far today

With His Job

It’s important to realize here that what a man does is a part of who he is.  This is part of the reason that the first thing one man will probably ask the other is “what do you do?”  I think that a lot of wives lose out on connections that they can make with their husbands because they want to separate him from his work– and yet that work is what he does for most of his day.

  1. Let him know how much you appreciate the work that he does.
  2. Get to know the names of people that he works with and their positions.
  3. Find out if it would be appropriate to invite a coworker over.
  4. If his company has a get together, don’t try to get out of it.
  5. Learn something about his profession– so that you’re at least conversant.
  6. Just like you’d like him to ask you about your day, ask him about his.
  7. Find out what he wants to do with his life.
  8. Encourage him to press on from where he is in job growth.
  9. Go on a work related trip with him.
  10. Prepare a snack just for him and his coworkers (the people in his office will look up to him!)
  11. Budget/Plan for lunches with coworkers– understand the need to network.
  12. Send him thoughtful or playful texts while he’s at work.
  13. Include a note of praise in his lunch (if he brings one).
  14. See him off in the morning.
  15. Welcome him home from the day.

We Are One – The Story of Adam and Eve

February 12th, 2018 Viewed 226 times
This entry is part 1 of 3 in the series Biblical Marriage

We are One

The Story of Adam and Eve – Genesis 1-3

In this passage we are taking a look at the first marriage—the first couple as it were.  From this study we should gain a crucial insight into what marriage was like when the people involved were sinless, and how that has changed because the introduction of sin.

Describe the creation of Adam and Eve.

Adam was created from the dust of the ground, like the animals.  However, he is the only one that is said to have had breathed into his nostrils the breath of life—he is a distinct creation.  Eve is the only person that is said to have been created not from the dust of the ground, but from Adam’s side.

What was the reason for the creation of Eve?

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Marriage and the Book of Ezra

December 7th, 2016 Viewed 1523 times


There are difficult passages in the Bible– ones that, on the surface, don’t seem to square with ones we find in other places.  One of these passages is in the book of Ezra.  In Ezra 10, Ezra the priest has read the law that he found in the temple and has come across a problem– the exiles from Israel had transgressed the law of God in regards to marrying foreign women.  God wanted Israel to stay pure and only to marry other Israelites.  Some of the captives even had children with these foreign women.  What to do?

Ezra and the priests decide that all those who had married foreign wives must put them away, or divorce them.  If they had children, they should be put away as well.  This would be an arduous task, and they expected it to take some time to be pure again.

Ideas to Make Christmas Special

December 3rd, 2016 Viewed 1589 times

christmas-wrapping-4.jpgHow do you make Christmas special? Two years back we were teasing the kids that we didn’t get them anything for Christmas.  That Christmas Eve we decided to hide the presents around the house and have them take turns finding them. The kids liked it so much that we did it again last year.

The point is to do something that’s unique to your family or something that you can share in.  So what are some of your traditions?

Here are some other ideas: How To Make Christmas Special for Your Kids

Creating a Will For Free In Less Than 10 Minutes!

August 27th, 2016 Viewed 908 times

Well, if you didn’t know (and I am sure you didn’t), this month is National “Make-A-Will” month.

And while I tend to think manufactured holidays and “months” like this are silly, in this case I think it is a good reminder for those who haven’t taken this critical and simple step.

So today I am going to show you what I did to create my will in less than 10 minutes and without spending a dime.

How To Create A Will In Less Than 10 Minutes And For FREE!

What to Keep In Your Fireproof Safe

August 26th, 2016 Viewed 884 times

Len Penzo lists 13 things to keep in your fireproof safe as follows:

1. Birth certificates
2. Property titles
3. Insurance policies
4. House photos
5. Safe deposit box keys
6. Social security cards
7. Passports
8. Financial account info
9. Spare car keys
10. Wills and living trusts
11. Health care proxies
12. Medical information
13. Emergency Cash

Hat Tip: What to Keep in Your Fireproof Safe

How to Treat Your Family Like VIPs

August 24th, 2016 Viewed 816 times

While you probably don’t work as a personal security agent as your day job, if you’re a man with a family, you’ve still got some VIPs that you’re responsible for keeping safe: your wife and your kiddos.

How to Treat Your Family Like VIPs


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