MInTheGap

It used to sound so strange, but it’s getting to be more common.  Many people are finding their marriage partners online than at any other point in time in history.  Whether it’s someone that’s local or a distance away, people are looking to the Internet to find someone that matches what they are looking for at an amazing rate.

A Little History

During college, I was seeing a girl that I thought I was going to marry.  I met her at a summer music camp, and we dated (long distance) through my senior year and until November of the year I finished college.  I was pretty sure that I was going to marry this woman, and it was my advances (trying to arrange with her parents to talk about getting engaged) that separated us.

I was living in a small town in Upstate, New York.  Not many people that share my beliefs stayed in the area, and I was pretty much the only person left in my age group at my church.  So, what was I to do?

I was talking a lot on AOL Instant Messenger, and I found a girl that I asked out on it.  Two weeks after we had been chatting, we met.  And the rest, as they say, is history.

Not Just Me

I’m not the only family member to find love online, however.  My cousin, the oldest on that side of the family, used eHarmony after trying courtship and other methods, and is now happily married.

The secret, I believe, is that dating sites allow you to find people that are more like yourself.  It’s like college, in that there is a big pool, and the bigger the pool the bigger the chance that you can find someone that you are compatible with.

Now, whether or not it’s better to find someone with variation so that you can be stronger through your differences, or to find someone with the same love for sock lint you do—that’s a topic for a different discussion!

How to Find the Right Site?

The neat thing is that there are sites that will give you the skinny on different dating sites out there.  For example, want to know more about Perfect Match or eHarmony?  It’s right at your fingertips.  They even tell you what kinds of people are on what sites, and what the highlights are.

Conclusion

In a society where marriage is falling apart, and being attacked, it’s important that you take the whole courtship or dating process seriously.  Make sure to take your time getting to know someone before committing to them for the rest of your life.  If you’ve spent more time researching what car to buy than you have getting to know a potential future spouse, then you haven’t spent enough time!