Comments on: How Long Should I Be Engaged? http://www.minthegap.com/2008/08/01/how-long-should-i-be-engaged/ Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God. Wed, 25 Jan 2012 19:17:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Albert http://www.minthegap.com/2008/08/01/how-long-should-i-be-engaged/comment-page-1/#comment-85861 Albert Fri, 29 Jan 2010 09:13:27 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2008/08/01/how-long-should-i-be-engaged/#comment-85861 hmmm Yest I have not engaged any girls.... still looking.. lol.. :) or we can say like that can't find perfect match... !! hmmm Yest I have not engaged any girls…. still looking.. lol.. :) or we can say like that can’t find perfect match… !!

]]> By: MInTheGap http://www.minthegap.com/2008/08/01/how-long-should-i-be-engaged/comment-page-1/#comment-81675 MInTheGap Mon, 04 Aug 2008 13:16:13 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2008/08/01/how-long-should-i-be-engaged/#comment-81675 @Rachel: I was debt free before getting married-- owned my own car and had investments. My wife was one year into a two year degree, and she owned her own car. After we were married, we traded her car in for one with four doors (we were both two-door car owners!) and that was some debt, and we had her second year of education. She got a part time job and we paid that off, but only recently got out of the rest of our debt. Boy does that feel good. That is quite the neat testimony about the timing, Rachel! @AG: That's exactly what I mean. When you're in the "well, we're getting married anyway" phase it's hard to think, "just one more month and we'll make it!" That's why, I'm sure, the bridegroom actually going away (in Bible times) and doing something until the wedding helped a bunch. @Rachel: I was debt free before getting married– owned my own car and had investments. My wife was one year into a two year degree, and she owned her own car. After we were married, we traded her car in for one with four doors (we were both two-door car owners!) and that was some debt, and we had her second year of education. She got a part time job and we paid that off, but only recently got out of the rest of our debt. Boy does that feel good.

That is quite the neat testimony about the timing, Rachel!

@AG: That’s exactly what I mean. When you’re in the “well, we’re getting married anyway” phase it’s hard to think, “just one more month and we’ll make it!” That’s why, I’m sure, the bridegroom actually going away (in Bible times) and doing something until the wedding helped a bunch.

]]> By: AG http://www.minthegap.com/2008/08/01/how-long-should-i-be-engaged/comment-page-1/#comment-81647 AG Sat, 02 Aug 2008 22:55:49 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2008/08/01/how-long-should-i-be-engaged/#comment-81647 Hubby and I were engaged for four months and three weeks exactly. I was hard to stay pure because you tend to get a "well, we're getting married anyway" type of attitude. I thank God for all my Christan girlfriends who'd check up on me and make sure I wasn't getting into trouble. AGs last blog post..<a href="http://talmidah-b-yeshua.blogspot.com/2008/08/my-new-hair.html">My New Hair</a> Hubby and I were engaged for four months and three weeks exactly. I was hard to stay pure because you tend to get a “well, we’re getting married anyway” type of attitude. I thank God for all my Christan girlfriends who’d check up on me and make sure I wasn’t getting into trouble.

AGs last blog post..My New Hair

]]> By: Rachel http://www.minthegap.com/2008/08/01/how-long-should-i-be-engaged/comment-page-1/#comment-81624 Rachel Fri, 01 Aug 2008 16:55:53 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2008/08/01/how-long-should-i-be-engaged/#comment-81624 I am a testimony to this post! My hubby and I "talked" (I think that's the word for it these days) for 2 months, dated for 2.5 months, and were engaged for 2.5 months. My bridesmaids barely had enough time to get dresses! Part of what helped us was we'd been good friends for the previous 3 years so there was no "getting to know you" period to go through - we already knew each other very well! Also he was out of college and I was one quarter off from graduation. We got engaged the night before I got my degree. Thanks to the Lord's blessings of scholarships, we had very little debt going into our marriage. We had to pay a few more months on his truck note, but there were no school loans or credit card debt to pay off. And it is a HUGE help when you're starting out. We both had good jobs, but newlyweds do not need the added pressure of worrying about how to pay off debt. Plus if it's only one partner's debt, resentment could build in the other partner because of the trouble it causes. Try as best you can to get your debt paid off before getting married, and if it's not possible, be totally upfront about it with your future spouse and work out a plan to get it paid off as soon as possible! Rachels last blog post..<a href="http://afuturepastorswife.blogspot.com/2008/08/grateful-today.html">Grateful Today</a> I am a testimony to this post! My hubby and I “talked” (I think that’s the word for it these days) for 2 months, dated for 2.5 months, and were engaged for 2.5 months. My bridesmaids barely had enough time to get dresses! Part of what helped us was we’d been good friends for the previous 3 years so there was no “getting to know you” period to go through – we already knew each other very well! Also he was out of college and I was one quarter off from graduation. We got engaged the night before I got my degree.

Thanks to the Lord’s blessings of scholarships, we had very little debt going into our marriage. We had to pay a few more months on his truck note, but there were no school loans or credit card debt to pay off. And it is a HUGE help when you’re starting out. We both had good jobs, but newlyweds do not need the added pressure of worrying about how to pay off debt. Plus if it’s only one partner’s debt, resentment could build in the other partner because of the trouble it causes. Try as best you can to get your debt paid off before getting married, and if it’s not possible, be totally upfront about it with your future spouse and work out a plan to get it paid off as soon as possible!

Rachels last blog post..Grateful Today

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