@Loc: In one sense your logic is inescapable. Obviously we live in a different world from where marriage was practically a necessity for the woman. She didn’t work, she didn’t have an identity, and being a widow meant certain poverty. That isn’t true today. So, why get married?

1. Primarily because it’s the right thing to do.

2. The quality of the relationship: any relationship based on feelings and comfort has no security and therefore is likely to change at any point in time. With no promise comes no security. Women also tend to get attached differently then men, so it’s still in their best interest to seek a partner that will commit– else why would there be all these articles everywhere talking about the guy that doesn’t want to commit and how to get him to make a commitment? Lastly, it is the woman that will usually bear the responsibility if [a] child[ren] come into the mix, and so it’s better to have a person committed to you even when the child comes than one that heads for the door.

3. The children: Studies show that the best environment to raise children is a two parent, monogamous, married couple.

4. Disease: STDs are everywhere, and the more partners you have the more chance you have of spreading disease. This isn’t to say that if you’re living together with a person and are exclusively having sex with that person that you’re at increased risk, this is saying that if you or your partner have been in multiple relationships (instead of one) you’re essentially having sex with everyone that the other person has had sex with before. And now, they’re even discovering that the HPV virus that causes cervical cancer in women is causing throat cancer in 30 and 40 year old men.

So, why would a girl want to get married? Security, attachment, prevention against disease, best environment for her children– multiple reasons. The question that needs to be asked is why would any woman trade these things for having sex with a whole group of people she doesn’t know (her current partner’s sexual partners) and accepting an unstable relationship when she can do better?

I have to actually agree with this statement, but for a different reason. Everyone here assumes these women want to get married, but why would they want to get married when they can have sex and a companion, without all the strings that come attached to marriage. No normal marriage dynamics (husband orders while wife manipulates or nags), if things get rough nothing but their own desires force them to stick it out, and best of all they never take the girls for granted (well some do, but they don’t last as boyfriends very long). Really I have a hard time seeing why most these girls would want to get married except for traditions sake.

All joking aside, I think there’s a lot of work to be done by both sexes.

Feminism has done a lot to tell women that they need to be men in order to have freedom– it’s a lie.

Men have been told it’s fine to look at porn, they have women in underwear selling all sorts of things, and on billboards, and they’re not taught the consequences of desensitizing themselves.

It’s a tragic problem that’s not going to be solved by legislation or some external means, it’s going to take a change of heart on behalf of parents, a radical change in what we deem acceptable entertainment, and a return of the concept of shame.

Men do what they have to to get a woman. Women need to push men to try harder by being upstanding women who only want godly men.

Women so often insult men and men so often objectify women. We really need to realize what a treasure each gender is.

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