Comments on: Do You Abuse Your Child? http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/ Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God. Wed, 25 Jan 2012 19:17:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: MInTheGap http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-80522 MInTheGap Thu, 17 Apr 2008 12:24:55 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/#comment-80522 @AG: Nah, you don't have to. I just wanted everyone to know I continued the conversation there a little. @AG: Nah, you don’t have to. I just wanted everyone to know I continued the conversation there a little.

]]> By: AG http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-80518 AG Wed, 16 Apr 2008 20:43:47 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/#comment-80518 I did, actually. I don't wanna re-state stuff I wrote over here, so I haven't commented. Do I need to get over it and do it anyway? :p <em>AG's last blog post..<a href='http://talmidah-b-yeshua.blogspot.com/2008/04/shout-to-lord.html'>Shout to the Lord</a></em> I did, actually. I don’t wanna re-state stuff I wrote over here, so I haven’t commented. Do I need to get over it and do it anyway? :p

AG’s last blog post..Shout to the Lord

]]> By: MInTheGap http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-80516 MInTheGap Wed, 16 Apr 2008 19:34:11 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/#comment-80516 @AG: I'm with you there. Did you notice the <a href="http://www.weekendkindness.net/2008/04/16/its-tough-being-a-parent/">followup post</a> over at WK? @AG: I’m with you there. Did you notice the followup post over at WK?

]]> By: AG http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-80515 AG Wed, 16 Apr 2008 19:18:32 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/#comment-80515 So that's just another thing we need to work to prevent. In Jesus' strength, we can have godly families. <em>AG's last blog post..<a href='http://talmidah-b-yeshua.blogspot.com/2008/04/shout-to-lord.html'>Shout to the Lord</a></em> So that’s just another thing we need to work to prevent. In Jesus’ strength, we can have godly families.

AG’s last blog post..Shout to the Lord

]]> By: MInTheGap http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-80514 MInTheGap Wed, 16 Apr 2008 17:55:44 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/#comment-80514 Unfortunately, AG, this is the way that it should work, but it doesn't always work that way. Sometimes the husband can become "just another one of the kids." It's wrong, but it happens. Unfortunately, AG, this is the way that it should work, but it doesn’t always work that way. Sometimes the husband can become “just another one of the kids.” It’s wrong, but it happens.

]]> By: AG http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-80510 AG Wed, 16 Apr 2008 16:17:05 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/#comment-80510 Dads should have more respect anyway, because they should have their wives' respect. The trick is to be sure the child sees the parents as a team. I very clearly remember growing up that my parents did their best to work together and when they disagreed my mom deferred to my dad. That didn't show me a weakness between them. Rather, it showed me the strength of their team. <em>AG's last blog post..<a href='http://talmidah-b-yeshua.blogspot.com/2008/04/shout-to-lord.html'>Shout to the Lord</a></em> Dads should have more respect anyway, because they should have their wives’ respect. The trick is to be sure the child sees the parents as a team. I very clearly remember growing up that my parents did their best to work together and when they disagreed my mom deferred to my dad. That didn’t show me a weakness between them. Rather, it showed me the strength of their team.

AG’s last blog post..Shout to the Lord

]]> By: MInTheGap http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-80504 MInTheGap Wed, 16 Apr 2008 14:57:51 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/#comment-80504 I can get behind the tag-team to a point. If you're not careful with the tag team you may find that the child respects one adult and not the other. Mothers that stay at home are at a distinct disadvantage when it comes to this area because they have far more time around the children. Fathers that work have the "luxury" of not having as much time where they have to be consistent, so they are more often respected more than moms (unfortunately). I say all that to say that Father's have a big responsibility to use this respect to reinforce the mom rather than squander this respect to make yourself feel like the parent the kids like! I can get behind the tag-team to a point. If you’re not careful with the tag team you may find that the child respects one adult and not the other.

Mothers that stay at home are at a distinct disadvantage when it comes to this area because they have far more time around the children. Fathers that work have the “luxury” of not having as much time where they have to be consistent, so they are more often respected more than moms (unfortunately).

I say all that to say that Father’s have a big responsibility to use this respect to reinforce the mom rather than squander this respect to make yourself feel like the parent the kids like!

]]> By: AG http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-80501 AG Wed, 16 Apr 2008 14:47:39 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/#comment-80501 Agreed. But you've got to be mindful of if you're making a good difference or a bad difference. If you've got a temper and you know it, be aware of that when you discipline your children. If it gets out of hand, tag team their other parent to discipline and you get out of it. Having pre-determined punnishments seems like the way to go here, also. <em>AG's last blog post..<a href='http://talmidah-b-yeshua.blogspot.com/2008/04/shout-to-lord.html'>Shout to the Lord</a></em> Agreed.

But you’ve got to be mindful of if you’re making a good difference or a bad difference. If you’ve got a temper and you know it, be aware of that when you discipline your children. If it gets out of hand, tag team their other parent to discipline and you get out of it. Having pre-determined punnishments seems like the way to go here, also.

AG’s last blog post..Shout to the Lord

]]> By: Weekend Kindness » It’s Tough Being a Parent http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-80500 Weekend Kindness » It’s Tough Being a Parent Wed, 16 Apr 2008 14:47:01 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/#comment-80500 [...] that you don't miss a single post from one of our great authors! Yesterday on my blog we discussed California’s latest attempt to ban spanking, and the conversation naturally flowed to something that’s difficult for all parents– [...] [...] that you don’t miss a single post from one of our great authors! Yesterday on my blog we discussed California’s latest attempt to ban spanking, and the conversation naturally flowed to something that’s difficult for all parents– [...]

]]> By: MInTheGap http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-80491 MInTheGap Wed, 16 Apr 2008 12:43:57 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2008/04/15/do-you-abuse-your-child/#comment-80491 Understood. What I'm trying to say that if the goal of your discipline is to actually make a difference, you're more likely to make that difference with younger children if you don't wait too long after the infraction. Understood. What I’m trying to say that if the goal of your discipline is to actually make a difference, you’re more likely to make that difference with younger children if you don’t wait too long after the infraction.

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