Comments on: Godly Husband: How Are You Treating "Your" Body http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/ Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God. Wed, 25 Jan 2012 19:17:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mary http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/comment-page-1/#comment-64919 Mary Sat, 17 Mar 2007 15:02:00 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/#comment-64919 Irish Spring is nice, Holly! My dh won't use anything but Zest though! :biggrin: Irish Spring is nice, Holly! My dh won’t use anything but Zest though! :biggrin:

]]> By: Holly http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/comment-page-1/#comment-64776 Holly Sat, 17 Mar 2007 01:58:38 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/#comment-64776 Hmmm, Mary. Irish Spring. That's the smell I like on my hubby. M in the Gap - Good post! A man who honors, loves, cherishes and considers his wife will have a wife who will do anything for him! Thank you!~ Hmmm, Mary. Irish Spring. That’s the smell I like on my hubby.

M in the Gap – Good post! A man who honors, loves, cherishes and considers his wife will have a wife who will do anything for him! Thank you!~

]]> By: Gerry http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/comment-page-1/#comment-64406 Gerry Fri, 16 Mar 2007 03:39:03 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/#comment-64406 In my 20 years of marriage, I have determined that I have a responsiblity as a husband to create an environment that nurtures my wife. This means that I often have to die to my own desires and selfish needs to be sensitive to hers. Before getting this revelation, I used to consider it nagging when my wife would ask me to do something for her. "Can't she do it herself?" I would think to myself. After all she is a strong, confident, and capable woman. Why does she need me to do things for her? It took me too long to realize that most of these requests were really her way of asking me to show her that she was important and valuable to me - valuable enough to put her needs ahead of mine. Alas, many husbands have not yet come to this same epiphany. Hopefully as more husbands take the lead in romance within their marriage, we can begin to turn this tide and get to a day when wives feel totally cherished by their husbands. Gerry www.byhusbandsforhusbands.com In my 20 years of marriage, I have determined that I have a responsiblity as a husband to create an environment that nurtures my wife. This means that I often have to die to my own desires and selfish needs to be sensitive to hers.

Before getting this revelation, I used to consider it nagging when my wife would ask me to do something for her. “Can’t she do it herself?” I would think to myself. After all she is a strong, confident, and capable woman. Why does she need me to do things for her?

It took me too long to realize that most of these requests were really her way of asking me to show her that she was important and valuable to me – valuable enough to put her needs ahead of mine.

Alas, many husbands have not yet come to this same epiphany. Hopefully as more husbands take the lead in romance within their marriage, we can begin to turn this tide and get to a day when wives feel totally cherished by their husbands.

Gerry
http://www.byhusbandsforhusbands.com

]]> By: Mary http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/comment-page-1/#comment-64397 Mary Fri, 16 Mar 2007 02:43:09 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/#comment-64397 Wow, what a great comment conversation this post has generated! Larry, your kind compliment made my day! Thank you! I second Deborah's recommendation of 1 Peter 3...that is a power passage for all wives, to win their husbands (saved/unsaved) withOUT a word, but by a gentle and quiet spirit. There's a lot to be gleaned from an in-depth study of that passage. Wow, what a great comment conversation this post has generated!

Larry, your kind compliment made my day! Thank you!

I second Deborah’s recommendation of 1 Peter 3…that is a power passage for all wives, to win their husbands (saved/unsaved) withOUT a word, but by a gentle and quiet spirit. There’s a lot to be gleaned from an in-depth study of that passage.

]]> By: Larry Eiss http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/comment-page-1/#comment-64177 Larry Eiss Thu, 15 Mar 2007 22:40:11 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/#comment-64177 Leticia, That is a very difficult situation. It is completely unreasonable to expect the unregenerate to obey the laws of God that we can obey only because of His Spirit living in us and empowering us. This is one important reason why our Loving Lord set the boundary of not being unequally yoked with unbelievers. Yet as Deborah points out above, women in this position are not without instruction. --Larry Leticia,

That is a very difficult situation. It is completely unreasonable to expect the unregenerate to obey the laws of God that we can obey only because of His Spirit living in us and empowering us.

This is one important reason why our Loving Lord set the boundary of not being unequally yoked with unbelievers.

Yet as Deborah points out above, women in this position are not without instruction.

–Larry

]]> By: Deborah http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/comment-page-1/#comment-64164 Deborah Thu, 15 Mar 2007 22:29:56 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/#comment-64164 Then you go back to that I Peter 3:1 passage and apply what YOU know is correct. Because after all, we can only change our own behavior and pray about someone elses. I try to apply this passage even with my saved husband because a husband being saved doesn't always guarantee that they won't 'do as they please and treat us like second-class citizens'. Or that we as women won't do the same. :sad: Then you go back to that I Peter 3:1 passage and apply what YOU know is correct. Because after all, we can only change our own behavior and pray about someone elses. I try to apply this passage even with my saved husband because a husband being saved doesn’t always guarantee that they won’t ‘do as they please and treat us like second-class citizens’. Or that we as women won’t do the same. :sad:

]]> By: Larry Eiss http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/comment-page-1/#comment-64154 Larry Eiss Thu, 15 Mar 2007 22:26:17 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/#comment-64154 I'm actually glad that you spilt this up. I was in a huge hurry when I wrote it. Mary, thanks for your always welcome insights. You have a wonderful spirit. 28 years of marriage has shown me a few things. Men need to be men, and women need to be women. The dilution of this order has caused many serious problems in society. That's to be expected since in general those who make up society are unregenerate. However once we do become new creatures, we need to believe the promises of God and act on that belief. When we do, we see the benefits of godly blessing in marriage and everywhere in life--even in the midst of extreme difficulty and pain. My personal observation is that women sometimes lead because their husbands won't. And husbands sometimes follow because they have been taught that to do otherwise is chauvenistic. There is more complexity to it, of course. Fortunately for the Living One it's easy-peazy lemon-squeezy... so to speak. :smile: Maybe I'll post on this... --Larry http://blog.eiss.net http://www.LarryEiss.com I’m actually glad that you spilt this up. I was in a huge hurry when I wrote it.

Mary, thanks for your always welcome insights. You have a wonderful spirit.

28 years of marriage has shown me a few things.

Men need to be men, and women need to be women. The dilution of this order has caused many serious problems in society. That’s to be expected since in general those who make up society are unregenerate. However once we do become new creatures, we need to believe the promises of God and act on that belief. When we do, we see the benefits of godly blessing in marriage and everywhere in life–even in the midst of extreme difficulty and pain.

My personal observation is that women sometimes lead because their husbands won’t. And husbands sometimes follow because they have been taught that to do otherwise is chauvenistic. There is more complexity to it, of course. Fortunately for the Living One it’s easy-peazy lemon-squeezy… so to speak. :smile:

Maybe I’ll post on this…
–Larry
http://blog.eiss.net
http://www.LarryEiss.com

]]> By: Leticia http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/comment-page-1/#comment-64148 Leticia Thu, 15 Mar 2007 22:21:57 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/#comment-64148 Those are great suggestions, but what about the unsaved husband? They do not have any type of guideline and they tend to do as they please and in the process treat their wives like second-class citizens in their home. Those are great suggestions, but what about the unsaved husband? They do not have any type of guideline and they tend to do as they please and in the process treat their wives like second-class citizens in their home.

]]> By: MInTheGap http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/comment-page-1/#comment-64128 MInTheGap Thu, 15 Mar 2007 20:59:51 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/#comment-64128 Larry, hope you didn't mind me breaking out your questions, but they were some good ones. Thanks for sharing. It's true, Mary, we do a lot when we are dating that we don't always keep up when we're married. I think the answers to Larry's questions are also different at different times. What I am finding out, however, is that the more that you put into your relationship, the more you get out of it! Larry, hope you didn’t mind me breaking out your questions, but they were some good ones. Thanks for sharing.

It’s true, Mary, we do a lot when we are dating that we don’t always keep up when we’re married. I think the answers to Larry’s questions are also different at different times. What I am finding out, however, is that the more that you put into your relationship, the more you get out of it!

]]> By: Mary http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/comment-page-1/#comment-64105 Mary Thu, 15 Mar 2007 19:41:47 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2007/03/15/godly-husband-how-are-you-treating-your-body/#comment-64105 Excellent questions, Larry! The wife could ask some of the same of herself...one biggie, is how interested are we in his interests? Do we understand his job and want to be informed enough about it that he wants to share about it with us? Glad you shared those! Excellent questions, Larry!

The wife could ask some of the same of herself…one biggie, is how interested are we in his interests? Do we understand his job and want to be informed enough about it that he wants to share about it with us?

Glad you shared those!

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