I strongly believe that this is why some couples have a really hard time relating after the kids are gone out of the house. We need to be making sure that we’re being Godly husbands and wives all the way though our lives.

Over the years in marriage, despite always saying I’d put him first, he’s slowly slid down the list of priorities. I think every marriage has bad times where the neglect becomes obvious…like a miserable pregnancy (btdt). Of course, that’s in the vows, for better or worse and in sickness and in health…but the sad thing is some of the habits formed in the bad times can tend to stick around longer than necessary. For me, during my last pregnancy, I stopped getting up at 5 AM with dh to make his lunch and send him off to work. That baby was 2 before I resumed my early morning’s with dh. He never asked me to get up with him, but I knew he missed it.

My writing has also taken away from our time together. He’s too nice to say so, but I wonder if he sometimes wishes I’d never cultivated this passion to write! I know I wish that sometimes…or that it could have been put off ten or so years till the girls were grown. I do try to write when he’s not in the house, but again, that’s not always the case.

Good questions, MIn.