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	<title>Comments on: Perhaps You Should Have Gotten Married First</title>
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	<description>Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God.</description>
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		<title>By: MInTheGap</title>
		<link>http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/27/perhaps-you-should-have-gotten-married-first/#comment-11872</link>
		<dc:creator>MInTheGap</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Nov 2006 15:09:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wow, that article really does promote anything but marriage.  The scary part is that I'm sure there's an element of truth to how much a married couple is intimate with each other.  But I think this is only a symptom of the real cause.  I don't think that couples today spend enough time cultivating their relationship as they do doing their own thing, running their houses, and raising their children.  How many couples end up not knowing their spouse after their kids are gone?

So, I think it should be a big warning sign that if you're not bonding with your spouse on all levels (physically, spiritually and emotionally) then something is wrong and needs to get put right.

What a benefit God gave to married couples-- the physical benefits of intimacy!

As for your avatar, if you have an image that you'd like (we've been doing headshots) you can e-mail it to me.  I've also lowered the number of comments you have to have posted before you can change your avatar.  You should see a link below the reply box that reads "As a frequent comment author you are allowed to register your own avatar."  If you click the end of that sentence you should be able to choose an image from the library.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wow, that article really does promote anything but marriage.  The scary part is that I&#8217;m sure there&#8217;s an element of truth to how much a married couple is intimate with each other.  But I think this is only a symptom of the real cause.  I don&#8217;t think that couples today spend enough time cultivating their relationship as they do doing their own thing, running their houses, and raising their children.  How many couples end up not knowing their spouse after their kids are gone?</p>
<p>So, I think it should be a big warning sign that if you&#8217;re not bonding with your spouse on all levels (physically, spiritually and emotionally) then something is wrong and needs to get put right.</p>
<p>What a benefit God gave to married couples&#8211; the physical benefits of intimacy!</p>
<p>As for your avatar, if you have an image that you&#8217;d like (we&#8217;ve been doing headshots) you can e-mail it to me.  I&#8217;ve also lowered the number of comments you have to have posted before you can change your avatar.  You should see a link below the reply box that reads &#8220;As a frequent comment author you are allowed to register your own avatar.&#8221;  If you click the end of that sentence you should be able to choose an image from the library.</p>
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		<title>By: Leigh Ann</title>
		<link>http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/27/perhaps-you-should-have-gotten-married-first/#comment-11855</link>
		<dc:creator>Leigh Ann</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Nov 2006 13:42:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>P.S. Why do I always look like a seasick troll?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>P.S. Why do I always look like a seasick troll?</p>
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		<title>By: Leigh Ann</title>
		<link>http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/27/perhaps-you-should-have-gotten-married-first/#comment-11852</link>
		<dc:creator>Leigh Ann</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Nov 2006 13:40:44 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>This post is on the heels of an article I came across about stress relief and how good sex was for this purpose. It gave the opinion that, based on research, after 4 years of marriage women are just hardwired to not really delight in this aspect of the relationship and therefore are losing a great benefit. (There is so much that could be said for that statement alone, but I won't go there.) One of the examples, however, was of an unmarried woman so stressed out by her new job, etc. that her poor boyfriend was really missing out. Poor thing was only getting it once a month. Well, they started to work on this sad state of affairs and, low and behold, she started having more energy, sleeping better and losing weight to boot. All from unmarried sex! So ladies, married or not, find a man and you too can benefit from this great cure-all.
What kind of message is this sending about sex? 1) Getting married cools the drive so apparently the lowest sexual experience on the totum pole is married sex. 2) Sex is for anyone, young, old, married, not, whatever. If it works for you and feels good do it. I could go on, but I will spare you.
The whole thing just blows my mind.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This post is on the heels of an article I came across about stress relief and how good sex was for this purpose. It gave the opinion that, based on research, after 4 years of marriage women are just hardwired to not really delight in this aspect of the relationship and therefore are losing a great benefit. (There is so much that could be said for that statement alone, but I won&#8217;t go there.) One of the examples, however, was of an unmarried woman so stressed out by her new job, etc. that her poor boyfriend was really missing out. Poor thing was only getting it once a month. Well, they started to work on this sad state of affairs and, low and behold, she started having more energy, sleeping better and losing weight to boot. All from unmarried sex! So ladies, married or not, find a man and you too can benefit from this great cure-all.<br />
What kind of message is this sending about sex? 1) Getting married cools the drive so apparently the lowest sexual experience on the totum pole is married sex. 2) Sex is for anyone, young, old, married, not, whatever. If it works for you and feels good do it. I could go on, but I will spare you.<br />
The whole thing just blows my mind.</p>
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		<title>By: MInTheGap</title>
		<link>http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/27/perhaps-you-should-have-gotten-married-first/#comment-11770</link>
		<dc:creator>MInTheGap</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Nov 2006 02:55:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I think that, unfortunately, babies are the new fashion accessory to some starlets-- kind of like those tiny dogs they carry around.  Perhaps they are a way for them to feel normal.  In any case, we can praise God that they are given life, but pray for them because of the life and the families they have been born into.

I think the whole "fathers are optional" thing will go down in history to be feminisms greatest folly.  My heart and my wife's heart goes out to single moms-- how can they teach a boy to be a man?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think that, unfortunately, babies are the new fashion accessory to some starlets&#8211; kind of like those tiny dogs they carry around.  Perhaps they are a way for them to feel normal.  In any case, we can praise God that they are given life, but pray for them because of the life and the families they have been born into.</p>
<p>I think the whole &#8220;fathers are optional&#8221; thing will go down in history to be feminisms greatest folly.  My heart and my wife&#8217;s heart goes out to single moms&#8211; how can they teach a boy to be a man?</p>
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		<title>By: Holly</title>
		<link>http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/27/perhaps-you-should-have-gotten-married-first/#comment-11752</link>
		<dc:creator>Holly</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Nov 2006 02:20:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Ah yes, well, fathers are optional, aren't they?  That's what it seems, anyway.

I'm thankful, in one way, in that the trend seems to be toward pregnant "starlets" keeping their babies, rather than aborting them...but....

the trend isn't toward a stable, committed marriage.

It seems there are a few of the "popular" folk who are able to find one spouse and be content - but not too many.  It proves to me that beauty does not equal happiness.  I find it so sad and unfortunate that many/most of our young people look to Hollywood for their role models.  The stats are indeed bad, aren't they?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ah yes, well, fathers are optional, aren&#8217;t they?  That&#8217;s what it seems, anyway.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m thankful, in one way, in that the trend seems to be toward pregnant &#8220;starlets&#8221; keeping their babies, rather than aborting them&#8230;but&#8230;.</p>
<p>the trend isn&#8217;t toward a stable, committed marriage.</p>
<p>It seems there are a few of the &#8220;popular&#8221; folk who are able to find one spouse and be content - but not too many.  It proves to me that beauty does not equal happiness.  I find it so sad and unfortunate that many/most of our young people look to Hollywood for their role models.  The stats are indeed bad, aren&#8217;t they?</p>
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		<title>By: Mary</title>
		<link>http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/27/perhaps-you-should-have-gotten-married-first/#comment-11743</link>
		<dc:creator>Mary</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Nov 2006 00:14:08 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Same thing here, what a downer. You made your point though...well said.

I was listening to AFR the other day, and they said that one of the big newspapers had published stats (I think it was the Washington Post) relating to poverty and how it affected single parents, unwed parents, and married parents. Very interesting. Around 38% of unwed parents were poverty level or below, a similar percentage of single parents raising children were at poverty level or below, and not so amazingly if you take into account that God's way is best: only 8% of married parents raising children were at poverty level or below. I thought it was neat that the WP published such a finding.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Same thing here, what a downer. You made your point though&#8230;well said.</p>
<p>I was listening to AFR the other day, and they said that one of the big newspapers had published stats (I think it was the Washington Post) relating to poverty and how it affected single parents, unwed parents, and married parents. Very interesting. Around 38% of unwed parents were poverty level or below, a similar percentage of single parents raising children were at poverty level or below, and not so amazingly if you take into account that God&#8217;s way is best: only 8% of married parents raising children were at poverty level or below. I thought it was neat that the WP published such a finding.</p>
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		<title>By: Leticia</title>
		<link>http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/27/perhaps-you-should-have-gotten-married-first/#comment-11699</link>
		<dc:creator>Leticia</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 27 Nov 2006 20:50:41 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Mrs. Logan, I was thinking the same thing. I was saying "yes, finally someone is telling the truth!" And much to my dismay it wasn't so.

How sickening that these women promote premarital sex and abortion!!!  They are in fact condoning murder and putting down a president who believes in abstinence.

What's next?  God help us.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Mrs. Logan, I was thinking the same thing. I was saying &#8220;yes, finally someone is telling the truth!&#8221; And much to my dismay it wasn&#8217;t so.</p>
<p>How sickening that these women promote premarital sex and abortion!!!  They are in fact condoning murder and putting down a president who believes in abstinence.</p>
<p>What&#8217;s next?  God help us.</p>
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		<title>By: MInTheGap</title>
		<link>http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/27/perhaps-you-should-have-gotten-married-first/#comment-11684</link>
		<dc:creator>MInTheGap</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 27 Nov 2006 19:36:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wouldn't that have been something if she had said the right thing, though?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wouldn&#8217;t that have been something if she had said the right thing, though?</p>
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		<title>By: Mrs. Meg Logan</title>
		<link>http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/27/perhaps-you-should-have-gotten-married-first/#comment-11682</link>
		<dc:creator>Mrs. Meg Logan</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 27 Nov 2006 19:27:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Amen!

I nearly had my hopes up though at the beginning of this post! *sigh* but alas, we are in dark times.

Mrs. Meg Logan</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Amen!</p>
<p>I nearly had my hopes up though at the beginning of this post! *sigh* but alas, we are in dark times.</p>
<p>Mrs. Meg Logan</p>
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