Comments on: Godly Wife: Is He Your Master? http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/ Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God. Wed, 25 Jan 2012 19:17:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: heather http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/comment-page-1/#comment-86848 heather Fri, 11 Mar 2011 01:56:21 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/#comment-86848 You said this would be hard...but I so disagree! I long for submission to my beloved..it is a huge part of the flame of love that burns between us, and such delight to my heart to give myself to him and to obey his authority. This is no cross...obedience to my head is such sweet pleasure. I am so blessed to have a man too who is not ashamed for me to look to him in this way, who finds my desire towards him a pleasure to his soul as well. It is our Eden, our paradise of God`s fulfillment for our hearts in this beautiful dance of His perfect design...loving authority and eager submission met together in tender hearted passion and love. It is my priviledge and ecstasy to kiss him and call him my lord, in our Lord`s pleasure and kindness. You said this would be hard…but I so disagree! I long for submission to my beloved..it is a huge part of the flame of love that burns between us, and such delight to my heart to give myself to him and to obey his authority. This is no cross…obedience to my head is such sweet pleasure. I am so blessed to have a man too who is not ashamed for me to look to him in this way, who finds my desire towards him a pleasure to his soul as well. It is our Eden, our paradise of God`s fulfillment for our hearts in this beautiful dance of His perfect design…loving authority and eager submission met together in tender hearted passion and love. It is my priviledge and ecstasy to kiss him and call him my lord, in our Lord`s pleasure and kindness.

]]> By: MInTheGap http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/comment-page-1/#comment-86660 MInTheGap Sun, 05 Dec 2010 01:34:24 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/#comment-86660 This is a very hard situation indeed. You see, our obedience lies not in whether someone else is obedient-- that wouldn't be agape (or self-sacrificing) love. Jesus loved us when we were unlovely, and He is our standard. That being said, if he is asking you to sin, you have firm foundation to refuse. If he is in sin, you may need to involve others in your church to talk with him to get him to see what's happening. This is a very hard situation indeed. You see, our obedience lies not in whether someone else is obedient– that wouldn’t be agape (or self-sacrificing) love. Jesus loved us when we were unlovely, and He is our standard.

That being said, if he is asking you to sin, you have firm foundation to refuse. If he is in sin, you may need to involve others in your church to talk with him to get him to see what’s happening.

]]> By: Samantha Pope http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/comment-page-1/#comment-86659 Samantha Pope Sun, 05 Dec 2010 00:05:21 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/#comment-86659 What happens when you give him the upmost respect but yet you get treated like crap in return. How can you submit to God and your husband when he's a selfish pig who cares about material things more than his family? What happens when you give him the upmost respect but yet you get treated like crap in return. How can you submit to God and your husband when he’s a selfish pig who cares about material things more than his family?

]]> By: MInTheGap http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/comment-page-1/#comment-11688 MInTheGap Mon, 27 Nov 2006 19:42:19 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/#comment-11688 Just as long as you're not required to salute, Meg! :) Seriously-- modeling correct Biblical roles to our kids is probably one of the most difficult things to do in that we fail! However, it's also one of the most rewarding because actions speak louder than words. Just as long as you’re not required to salute, Meg! :)

Seriously– modeling correct Biblical roles to our kids is probably one of the most difficult things to do in that we fail! However, it’s also one of the most rewarding because actions speak louder than words.

]]> By: Mrs. Meg Logan http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/comment-page-1/#comment-11680 Mrs. Meg Logan Mon, 27 Nov 2006 19:25:10 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/#comment-11680 I did vow to obey my husband. Doug and I took our vows straight from Ephesians 5. I also highly recommend Debi Pearl's book Created to be His Helpmeet. Doug happens to be a cross between Visionary and Commander! Supposedly these are the most exciting husbands! I sure enjoy our adventure together! Now that I have a daughter I have to think even more carefully about how I express respect towards my husband. How I treat him and such. I have considered going so far as to call him "Sir" as a sign of my respect and submission, but I feel quite silly doing it! Though it is certainly VERY helpful as a reminder of my submission. A reminder to myself! Mrs. Meg Logan I did vow to obey my husband. Doug and I took our vows straight from Ephesians 5. I also highly recommend Debi Pearl’s book Created to be His Helpmeet. Doug happens to be a cross between Visionary and Commander! Supposedly these are the most exciting husbands! I sure enjoy our adventure together!

Now that I have a daughter I have to think even more carefully about how I express respect towards my husband. How I treat him and such. I have considered going so far as to call him “Sir” as a sign of my respect and submission, but I feel quite silly doing it! Though it is certainly VERY helpful as a reminder of my submission. A reminder to myself!

Mrs. Meg Logan

]]> By: Leigh Ann http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/comment-page-1/#comment-11031 Leigh Ann Wed, 22 Nov 2006 19:53:40 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/#comment-11031 Good stuff. As I read in another post somewhere, this all starts in the mind, bringing every thought into captivity. It is easy to fall into the trap that says, "Well, I am not saying or doing disrespectful things about him or to him." But the whole time we are disrespecting him in our thoughts. It's hard to remember that in a marriage, both partners married sinners. We expect, no demand perfection from the other as our "right". We forget that the Christian life is not about our rights, but about our bringing honor to the King and His kingdom in all things. Such good things to remember. Good stuff. As I read in another post somewhere, this all starts in the mind, bringing every thought into captivity. It is easy to fall into the trap that says, “Well, I am not saying or doing disrespectful things about him or to him.” But the whole time we are disrespecting him in our thoughts. It’s hard to remember that in a marriage, both partners married sinners. We expect, no demand perfection from the other as our “right”. We forget that the Christian life is not about our rights, but about our bringing honor to the King and His kingdom in all things. Such good things to remember.

]]> By: Mary http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/comment-page-1/#comment-11003 Mary Wed, 22 Nov 2006 14:12:56 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/#comment-11003 I highly respect my husband's judgement, but he's the first one to pick up on any instance in which he thinks I'm second-guessing him. It's really opened my eyes to how important it is to our husbands to know we trust their judgement. Debi Pearl's book, Created to Be His Helpmeet, goes into detail when she explores her definition of the "three types of husbands". She labels them: Mr. Steady, Mr. Command, and Mr. Visionary. My dh is a great blend of Steady and Visionary. I learned that even when Mr. Visionary's goals are hard to appreciate and understand, we wives need to back them 100%. It was definitely a perspective that helped me understand and more appreciate that side of him. Great series. You have a real gift for getting to the heart of these topics you choose! I highly respect my husband’s judgement, but he’s the first one to pick up on any instance in which he thinks I’m second-guessing him. It’s really opened my eyes to how important it is to our husbands to know we trust their judgement.

Debi Pearl’s book, Created to Be His Helpmeet, goes into detail when she explores her definition of the “three types of husbands”. She labels them: Mr. Steady, Mr. Command, and Mr. Visionary. My dh is a great blend of Steady and Visionary. I learned that even when Mr. Visionary’s goals are hard to appreciate and understand, we wives need to back them 100%. It was definitely a perspective that helped me understand and more appreciate that side of him.

Great series. You have a real gift for getting to the heart of these topics you choose!

]]> By: MInTheGap http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/comment-page-1/#comment-10941 MInTheGap Wed, 22 Nov 2006 03:37:11 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/#comment-10941 This is a tough post to write from a man's perspective, as you probably can guess. And yet, at the same time, you wives need to know how your man thinks and feels. Thanks for the encouragement, Deborah and Jenna. I plan to be as tough on the men as I am on the women. Let me know if you have some things that you wish your men knew or took into account! This is a tough post to write from a man’s perspective, as you probably can guess. And yet, at the same time, you wives need to know how your man thinks and feels.

Thanks for the encouragement, Deborah and Jenna. I plan to be as tough on the men as I am on the women. Let me know if you have some things that you wish your men knew or took into account!

]]> By: Jenna http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/comment-page-1/#comment-10927 Jenna Tue, 21 Nov 2006 22:32:48 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/#comment-10927 Thanks so much for the reminder! Lately, I have been seeing such a turn of women focusing on what they should have and what is "owed" to them, discussion on edifying and respecting one's husband seems to be slipping by the wayside a bit. Anyway, thanks for bringing up this important topic! :) Thanks so much for the reminder! Lately, I have been seeing such a turn of women focusing on what they should have and what is “owed” to them, discussion on edifying and respecting one’s husband seems to be slipping by the wayside a bit. Anyway, thanks for bringing up this important topic! :)

]]> By: Deborah http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/comment-page-1/#comment-10921 Deborah Tue, 21 Nov 2006 20:38:09 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/2006/11/21/godly-wife-is-he-your-master/#comment-10921 Wow! Do I HAVE to answer that one?! A whole lot was said in just a couple paragraphs. And it gave me a whole lot to think about and pray about. I wish young women, preparing for marriage would really think about that question before they walk down the aisle. Are they marrying someone that is a Believer, someone that they respect and someone they can follow and call 'Lord'? To remember that it is not demeaning them, but giving them the freedom to be what God wants them to be. And to remember that they are showing submission to God the Father through that submission to their husband. Great series!! Wow! Do I HAVE to answer that one?! A whole lot was said in just a couple paragraphs. And it gave me a whole lot to think about and pray about. I wish young women, preparing for marriage would really think about that question before they walk down the aisle. Are they marrying someone that is a Believer, someone that they respect and someone they can follow and call ‘Lord’? To remember that it is not demeaning them, but giving them the freedom to be what God wants them to be. And to remember that they are showing submission to God the Father through that submission to their husband. Great series!!

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