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Divorce?

November 19th, 2006 Visited 1681 times, 1 so far today

Newspaper columnist and minister George Crane tells of a wife who came into his office full of hatred toward her husband. “I do not only want to get rid of him, I want to get even. Before I divorce him, I want to hurt him as much as he has me.”

I found this article while looking up sermon illustrations a while back, and I thought that I would pass it along:

Dr. Crane suggested an ingenious plan “Go home and act as if you really love your husband. Tell him how much he means to you. Praise him for every decent trait. Go out of your way to be as kind, considerate, and generous as possible. Spare no efforts to please him, to enjoy him. Make him believe you love him. After you’ve convinced him of your undying love and that you cannot live without him, then drop the bomb. Tell him that your’ re getting a divorce. That will really hurt him.” With revenge in her eyes, she smiled and exclaimed, “Beautiful, beautiful. Will he ever be surprised!” And she did it with enthusiasm. Acting “as if.” For two months she showed love, kindness, listening, giving, reinforcing, sharing. When she didn’t return, Crane called. “Are you ready now to go through with the divorce?”

“Divorce?” she exclaimed. “Never! I discovered I really do love him.” Her actions had changed her feelings. Motion resulted in emotion. The ability to love is established not so much by fervent promise as often repeated deeds. – J. Allan Petersen.

Should you ever get to the point in your marriage where you feel like he/she doesn’t love you– practice showing love and watch how it will change your mind.

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  • ann_in_grace says on: November 20, 2006 at 5:21 am

     

    Yes. I have read it before somewhere. It is great.
    Makes you stop and think of how much this whole thing depends on you, and that you can govern your emotions.
    I shall adapt this to my own life prayfully.

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