Comments on: What are the Duties of a Pastor’s Wife? http://www.minthegap.com/2006/07/15/what-are-the-duties-of-a-pastors-wife/ Standing in the Gap in a Society that's Warring with God. Sat, 10 Jan 2009 00:11:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: MInTheGap http://www.minthegap.com/2006/07/15/what-are-the-duties-of-a-pastors-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-323 MInTheGap Wed, 02 Aug 2006 14:55:22 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/?p=510#comment-323 In the two processes I've been involved in while looking for a pastor, the pastors wife is the question that is an enigma. Do you want one that's involved in the church? Can she work outside the home? Our last Pastor's wife had a group of women she liked-- she kind of contributed to the cliquiness that was there at the end. Our new pastor's wife-- because she hasn't been there or because of who she is-- is friendly with everyone. They really are a part of their husbands ministry-- no matter what role they take up. In the two processes I’ve been involved in while looking for a pastor, the pastors wife is the question that is an enigma. Do you want one that’s involved in the church? Can she work outside the home?

Our last Pastor’s wife had a group of women she liked– she kind of contributed to the cliquiness that was there at the end. Our new pastor’s wife– because she hasn’t been there or because of who she is– is friendly with everyone.

They really are a part of their husbands ministry– no matter what role they take up.

]]> By: Mary http://www.minthegap.com/2006/07/15/what-are-the-duties-of-a-pastors-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-320 Mary Wed, 02 Aug 2006 14:21:18 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/?p=510#comment-320 My mom was the best of pastor's wives...she was termed a "grace lady" by so many people and loved by all. She had an unconditional love, and a joyful serving heart. And she could have written a dictionary on hospitality...and wisdom. She was always throwing "mystery dinners" and thinking up fun skits for our potlucks. I know she ran interference for my dad at times, but never in a disloyal way. They met at Bible college, and married right before seminary. Had 5 kids too, so she was a busy lady. Our former pastor's wife was a mom of 6 and homeschooled. She too, was very kind and gracious but kept out of the limelight due to her prioritizing her family. She was the Prov 31 lady IRL...encouraging all of us. Because of her, most of the ladies in our church now grind their own wheat and many of my favorite recipes come from her. Now that I'm older, I've heard that many pastors tell their wives not to get too close to anyone...how sad. Pastor's wives have to have a super close relationship with God to withstand the criticism of their husband and their ministry. And even their own children when they criticize their dad. Not a job I'd envy, so give your PW's a blessing and thank them for taking the job on! Even if you're not that thrilled with the job they're doing! My mom was the best of pastor’s wives…she was termed a “grace lady” by so many people and loved by all. She had an unconditional love, and a joyful serving heart. And she could have written a dictionary on hospitality…and wisdom. She was always throwing “mystery dinners” and thinking up fun skits for our potlucks. I know she ran interference for my dad at times, but never in a disloyal way. They met at Bible college, and married right before seminary. Had 5 kids too, so she was a busy lady.
Our former pastor’s wife was a mom of 6 and homeschooled. She too, was very kind and gracious but kept out of the limelight due to her prioritizing her family. She was the Prov 31 lady IRL…encouraging all of us. Because of her, most of the ladies in our church now grind their own wheat and many of my favorite recipes come from her.
Now that I’m older, I’ve heard that many pastors tell their wives not to get too close to anyone…how sad. Pastor’s wives have to have a super close relationship with God to withstand the criticism of their husband and their ministry. And even their own children when they criticize their dad.
Not a job I’d envy, so give your PW’s a blessing and thank them for taking the job on! Even if you’re not that thrilled with the job they’re doing!

]]> By: Chris Naron http://www.minthegap.com/2006/07/15/what-are-the-duties-of-a-pastors-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-150 Chris Naron Mon, 17 Jul 2006 02:26:18 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/?p=510#comment-150 It may sound cynical but women are attracted to power, and if you're raised in church, the pastor is a pretty big symbol of power. It's no surprise that young ladies would be attracted to that. It may sound cynical but women are attracted to power, and if you’re raised in church, the pastor is a pretty big symbol of power. It’s no surprise that young ladies would be attracted to that.

]]> By: MInTheGap http://www.minthegap.com/2006/07/15/what-are-the-duties-of-a-pastors-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-147 MInTheGap Mon, 17 Jul 2006 01:47:46 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/?p=510#comment-147 It's amazing to me that so many women in the college I went to dreamed of being a pastor's wife now seeing things from the other side (being a deacon in my church). There's a lot more involved than I'm sure these girls know being in college. Perhaps that's a good thing for the guys-- otherwise all us geeky CompSci majors would be getting the girls... It’s amazing to me that so many women in the college I went to dreamed of being a pastor’s wife now seeing things from the other side (being a deacon in my church). There’s a lot more involved than I’m sure these girls know being in college. Perhaps that’s a good thing for the guys– otherwise all us geeky CompSci majors would be getting the girls…

]]> By: Chris Naron http://www.minthegap.com/2006/07/15/what-are-the-duties-of-a-pastors-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-143 Chris Naron Mon, 17 Jul 2006 01:26:23 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/?p=510#comment-143 It's a tough position because a pastor's wife can do a lot to mess up the ministry but the good stuff she does behind the scenes largely goes unoticed. Like talking her husand down off the ledge every night. It’s a tough position because a pastor’s wife can do a lot to mess up the ministry but the good stuff she does behind the scenes largely goes unoticed. Like talking her husand down off the ledge every night.

]]> By: MInTheGap http://www.minthegap.com/2006/07/15/what-are-the-duties-of-a-pastors-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-137 MInTheGap Sun, 16 Jul 2006 10:38:01 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/?p=510#comment-137 My pastor's wife got burned out in their last ministry because it was so "easy" to try to make her an associate pastor. Everyone tends to expect her to be available and do things because her husband does. I don't think this is an excuse not to do things, but she definitely shouldn't be overused. My pastor’s wife got burned out in their last ministry because it was so “easy” to try to make her an associate pastor. Everyone tends to expect her to be available and do things because her husband does. I don’t think this is an excuse not to do things, but she definitely shouldn’t be overused.

]]> By: Chris Naron http://www.minthegap.com/2006/07/15/what-are-the-duties-of-a-pastors-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-131 Chris Naron Sat, 15 Jul 2006 20:17:45 +0000 http://www.minthegap.com/?p=510#comment-131 In my experience, the pastor's wife's main role has been to pass judgement and the fried chicken. Seriously, the best thing for a pastor's wife to do is what she would normally do if he wasn't a pastor. In other words, she shouldn't be held to any responsibilites higher or lower than any wife of a deacon or even a Sunday school teacher. Trying to be co-pastor is usually a bad idea. In my experience, the pastor’s wife’s main role has been to pass judgement and the fried chicken.

Seriously, the best thing for a pastor’s wife to do is what she would normally do if he wasn’t a pastor. In other words, she shouldn’t be held to any responsibilites higher or lower than any wife of a deacon or even a Sunday school teacher. Trying to be co-pastor is usually a bad idea.

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